Book a call with me today and start building flow and moving forward in a REAL way.
Oh, hi there.
Thanks for stopping by on this page – my name is Oli Anderson and I’m a coach, author, and yoga teacher who believes (and has seen many times now) that the most direct way to start healing our lives is to treat the mind-body as one system and to start to cultivate unconditional self-acceptance.
When we treat the mind-body as one system then it gives us a number of powerful options for BUILDING FLOW in our lives and becoming unstuck:
-We can explore our thoughts and to start teaching ourselves to discern the REAL from unreal. This allows us to start taking action that’s an expression of who we really are instead of who we ‘think’ or have been told we ‘should’ be.
-We can start to explore how our body is holding on to the unresolved emotional ‘stuff’ that leads to many of these unreal thoughts (and the identity stemming from them) so that we can start to free ourselves from dissociation and enmeshment that keeps us in ‘survival mode’ instead of living our REAL lives.
Focusing on both of these levels and taking focused, disciplined, and consistent action to let go of the survival patterns and ‘software’ that no longer serves you will transform your life.
You can make sure that you’re not sabotaging yourself because of your hidden patterns and that you take conscious control of your own life by putting yourself in the driving seat.
You will be able to:
- Drop your projections
- Start to move towards your vision and grow real
My coaching is a ‘No BS’ but compassionate approach to helping you guide yourself back into a real relationship with yourself, the world, and reality so that you can stop hesitating and holding back and build the flow, buzz, and momentum that comes from releasing what you don’t need and integrating what’s true about you.
I use a combination of traditional coaching methods and techniques, somatic work and nervous system regulation (when necessary), practical philosophy (all pointing back to the idea that “REAL ALWAYS WORKS” in all areas of life), and experience in mental health and trauma to help you get where you need and want to be in a supportive and safe way.
I also draw from my books around this kind of thing (mainly ‘realness’ and shadow work), yoga philosophy, interventions like NLP and a lot of relevant life experience from my own journey.
We will go as deep as you need to go to get you further than you even imagine is possible.
(I can say this because as you get a few weeks into our coaching container you’ll start to see that so much more is possible for you than you might think right now).
By going through a process of raising AWARENESS, cultivating ACCEPTANCE, and then taking ACTION we can ensure that you put yourself on a path that you really want to be on and where you’re letting go of the past, feeling the buzz of the present, and shifting into a future that we’re excited about.
The best way to see if I can serve you with what you’re working on is to book a call with me using the link on this page or by going to my website and booking an appointment.
Coaching is an experience – not something that only ‘hits’ us at the cognitive or cerebral level; to find out if I can help you then let’s create an experience and take it from there (I don’t do ‘sales’ calls – I will literally just coach you from the get-go and help you move forward)!
Can I help you?
I find that I get the best results from people that are driven but need a little clarity or want to figure out and push through to the next level of themselves and their lives. They may also have reached a point where they believe that “enough is enough” and that they’ve reached the end of the line with a current version of themselves and the associated beliefs and behaviours, so they’re ready to do whatever it takes to make a change. When people are truly committed in this way, it brings out the best in me too and the energy is AMAZING.
The biggest barriers that people face in my experience are underlying SHAME and trauma (most often shame – the most common problem in the world, in my opinion) – that has caused them to ‘freeze’ up in survival mode and that has caused them to disown very real or important parts of themselves (goals, values, qualities, dreams, etc.) in order to stay frozen and stop facing what they need to face to free themselves. This causes them to create a sense of IDENTITY based on what they’ve disowned, rather than who they are in their realness – what they need to start doing is rebuilding in a real way.
Very often, these people have been quite successful by conventional standards and have managed to attain their goals in one area of their lives (normally business or career) but this has been a distraction from other areas of their lives (especially their ‘inner world’) and so they have a restless feeling or an itch that can’t be scratched that follows them around no matter what they do. In other words, they’ve become DISCONNECTED from their real selves and they need to find a way back home (which is where Awareness, Acceptance, and Action come in again).
Working with me: A transformative 4-month journey toward real change and self-acceptance
- 8 coaching Sessions over a period of about four months (on average – one every other week). These Sessions are about exploring how to heal this disconnection and then how to start ACTING to start reconnecting and undoing the mind-body fragmentation that has arisen from this. Every Session is different for every client but it ultimately involves going as deep as we need to go into your beliefs and your vision and seeing what’s keeping you from moving in a way that feels real.
- Accountability in-between Sessions for the duration of the coaching container. For most clients, this involves checking in (on WhatsApp or email etc.) every day from Monday to Friday (with time to reflect and process on weekends though some clients require weekend check-ins too). The point here is to keep exploring the themes that came up in the Sessions in real time but also to ensure that actions are taken – because action is the only thing that changes anything – and that any obstacles or challenges are used as springboards instead of impediments so everything keeps flowing.
- Dedicated tools and exercises to ensure that the coaching container helps you to really implement what you’ve been exploring in Sessions but also so that you get a psychoeducation that serves you for the rest of your life.
In short, what I offer is a dedicated four month block of time for you to work on getting where you want to be and giving you the space, energy, and support to make it happen (and if you’re not there in the four months we’ll add a few extra Sessions until you do reach your agreed goal)!
If you want more information then feel free to get in touch at any time with any questions (there’s a ‘Whatsapp’ button on my site) or to book a call with me and experience coaching to see if it’s for you.
Results You Can Expect
- Break Free from Limiting Beliefs
Stop letting old stories and identities hold you back, allowing you to take action that reflects who you really are, not who you’ve been told to be or believe you might be because of underlying shame, FEAR (“false evidence appearing real”) and doubt. - Build Unshakeable Self-Acceptance
Embrace every part of yourself, including the parts may have hidden or disowned, so you can live with real self-trust without unnecessarily friction, frustration or even misery. - Gain Clarity and Genuine Direction in Life
Discover a real vision that genuinely excites you and aligns with your real values so that you can create a clear path forward that’s no longer sabotaged by old patterns or survival-mode habits. - Reconnect with Your REALNESS
Move beyond any defensive identities or masks you’ve taken on, reconnecting with your REAL self so you can live a life that actually feels meaningful and whole. - Overcome Shame and Emotional Barriers
Release underlying shame, trauma, or hidden emotions that keep you stuck in “freeze mode” so you can live freely, without fear or self-judgement holding you back. - Balance Your Nervous System
Shift out of reactivity and survival mode into a balanced, calm state with practical tools for nervous system regulation, breathwork, and somatic awareness. - Build Confidence in Facing Life’s Challenges
Develop real resilience and self-trust, allowing you to face obstacles with courage and move forward knowing you’ve got your own back. - Create Genuine, Lasting Transformation
Develop a “REAL ALWAYS WORKS” approach to yourself and life, achieving meaningful change that actually sticks because it’s rooted in reality, not in idealised visions of how things ‘should’ be. - Deepen Your Relationships and Connections
Let go of projections and outdated patterns, enabling you to connect with others more authentically and in a way that feels true to who you really are and what life is. - Experience Inner Peace and Flow
Move beyond old survival patterns and habits that keep you in “freeze mode,” and start living with flow, excitement, and energy instead.
If you’ve landed on this page then something inside you knows that you’re ready to make a change (otherwise you probably wouldn’t be on a site like this) – I’ve helped people just like you to surpass their wildest expectations of themselves and I’m confident I can do the same for you.
If you’re ready to commit to real change and reconnect with your real life, book a call today to see if we can bring the energy and get you where you need to be.
Thanks for reading and stay real out there,
IT ALWAYS COMES BACK TO REALNESS
At the heart of the REALNESS philosophy is a commitment to uncovering and embodying your truth. In a world filled with noise and distractions, REALNESS offers a holistic framework for personal growth that integrates the mind-body connection, empowering you to navigate life with authenticity and purpose.
Why REALNESS Works: REALNESS is built on the understanding that true transformation occurs when we focus on what is REAL. By guiding you through the stages of Awareness, Acceptance, and Action, I can guide you into cultivating awareness, embrace all of the ‘parts’ of yourself, and take intentional steps toward your goals. This grounded approach ensures that you’re not just dreaming of change but actively participating in it. I’ll also keep you accountable on the way there until this way of showing up is second nature.
Achieving Remarkable Results: The effectiveness of REALNESS lies in its ability to bridge the subjective and the objective. As you uncover truth and align your actions with it, you will experience profound personal and relational transformations. My clients consistently achieve remarkable results, as the principles of REALNESS empower them to navigate challenges, build resilience, and create meaningful connections.
A REAL Conversation Can Change Your Life: How I Can Help
The main way that I can help you is through coaching which ultimately goes like this: we create trust, I ask you direct questions in a judgement-free container, then you reveal yourself to yourself.
This isn’t something like therapy where you’ll spend the rest of your life talking about the same problems – it’s about helping you to stop holding back, hesitating, and hypnotising yourself with unreal stories and dissolving your programming so that you can be who you really are.
This isn’t something that you can understand conceptually but something that you need to EXEPRIENCE (so book a call if this is what you’re looking for).
If you’re currently struggling to be who you know you can be, then you’re caught up in being unreal with yourself and can’t see your own potential (I can though – I’ll help you reveal it and relight the fire it brings). My coaching will walk you through a process of cultivating AWARENESS, growing in ACCEPTANCE, and taking inspired ACTION so you can feel REAL again.
Here are 10 ‘rules’ I adhere to with my coaching relationships:
- I will always speak to the realest version of you that is available to us.
- I will come from a real place (even if that means difficult conversations or even that we don’t end up working together). We act together in service of helping you 1) uncover the truth, 2) live the truth.
- I won’t waste too much time dragging up your problems but will explore what’s already real and allow it to grow outwards into your life as you start to lean into it instead of shrinking. If problems are obstacles then we will find solutions (or work to accept what can’t be changed because it’s just part of life – eg. Death).
- I will guide you but never tell you what to do or set the agenda for you. I’m not trying to ‘fix’ you but simply to help you see yourself clearly in your own realness.
- I won’t aim to coach you for the rest of your life. I will get you to a place where you don’t need coaching (unless you’re working on something really specific).
- I’m not going to give you conceptual information or teaching about transformation. I’m going to help you create the conditions so you can experience transformation yourself.
- I know that we all share fundamental similarities (because of how life just is) but also that we’re all unique and incomparable. I want to find what works for you. This is the only way for you to be ‘seen’ and to reveal yourself through inspired action.
- My only real job is to illuminate what’s already real so you can do something with it instead of holding back behind fear, hesitation, and doubt.
- Our goal is to create space for you to trust yourself and to trust life. This is the key to constant evolution and expansion.
- Self-hypnosis and programming make us more miserable than life ever could. Together we will explore how this might apply in your life so you can live your real life instead of an unreal one.
I have loads of resources to help you grow real- including some practical free ‘stuff’ (keep scrolling).
Here’s a list to get you started:
COACHING FOR REALNESS / CREATIVE PARTNER IN CRIME
Bespoke coaching packages – When it comes to growing real, everybody’s path is different. My standard way of working with people is to help them to move deeper into realness in four-month blocks (with 8 sessions in this period and daily accountability support in between).
During this period, we’ll aim to get you to a TANGIBLE place in life or business where you’re moving in a real way and no longer holding yourself back from your REAL life and potential.
The only way to know if my coaching is what you’re looking for is to EXPERIENCE it and to see if it’s something you might be committed to (anybody who tells you coaching works without a commitment on both sides is probably BS’ing you).
You can book a free call here:
The Creative Performance Transformation Lab – this is an intense one-month coaching container and creative partnership for anybody with a personal or creative brand that wants to upgrade their business fast and get results.
Over the course of four weeks, we’ll go DEEP into fleshing out the philosophy behind your brand, turning it into a transformational framework for delivering value, creating targeted offers, and putting foundations in place to grow your business fast. Youl’ll do so much in a short-term it’ll blow your mind.
PODCAST: CREATIVE STATUS – Deconstruct Ego, Integrate Shadow, Manifest Real Life
Creative Status is a podcast about the creative process and how creativity is ultimately a vehicle for allowing our realness to emerge as we move from a fragmented state to a state of wholeness.
Every Monday, I release an episode where I interview REAL human beings about the creative journey they’ve been on in their own lives and the insight and practical tips they garnered along the way.
If you’re working on some of this ‘stuff’ in your own life and you want to dive into the human experience then Creative Status can help you guide yourself there quicker.
FREE COURSES & RESOURCES FOR REALNESS
Ego / Shadow / Trust (Building FLOW and Becoming Unstuck) –
Feeling stuck and ready to start BUILDING FLOW in your life?
This free guide by emphasises the importance of Awareness, Acceptance, and Action when it comes to taking a transformational journey in life.
It walks you through three vital stages of transforming your life forever (with practical tips): Deconstructing the Ego, Integrating the Shadow, and learning to TRUST yourself and life.
The 7-Day Personality Transplant System Shock for Realness & Life Purpose – this is an INTENSE 7-day video course to give you a shock to the system and help you see how you’re holding yourself back from REAL life.
By the time you’re done, you’ll have finished 7-modules in REALNESS and will have a clear sense of purpose and vision for the future. The course comes with an exlusive 158-page workbook to ensure you go deep into your learning and get actual results.
Bare Ass Minimum (BAM) Challenge – This is a simple 7-day challenge to help you start to improve your life immediately by implementing the BARE ASS MINIMUM of foundational health habits, vision setting, goals, and daily tasks to make it all happen.
Every day I’ll send you a simple but highly practical email so that by the end of the week you’ll know exactly what you need to do to start building and living your REAL life.
Creative Brand Workshop for Creatives, Coaches, & Solopreneurs (etc) – This one-hour workshop can help you to design a PHILOSOPHY around your creative brand or project. This will ensure that whatever you’re doing is REAL and that you can connect to the right people in a way that actually matters to you.
The workshop uses a design tool (the Truth Bomb Brand Design & UX Canvas) to walk you through understanding your project at four key levels: Substance, Style, Communication, & Community. This will level you up fast and inspire you to dream big.
The 90-Day Journal Prompt Challenge – This is a free workbook with 90-days of journal prompts to help you get into the journalling habit whilst growing real. It will take you on a journey of rasing AWARENESS (always the first step in a transformational journey) so that you can start taking REAL action and living a better life.
Hamster Wheel Thought Log – This is a really simple but effective tool adapted from CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy).
It’s designed to help you TRAIN YOURSELF to eventually stop negative thoughts in their track so that you can be empowered to CHOOSE to respond instead of just automatically reacting. This way you can focus on the REAL action you want to take so you can live your real life.
Extremely Personal Questions – This is a list of (extremely) personal questions that I use with some of my coaching clients in the early stages of their journey.
It’s a great way for them to start gaining AWARENESS of the patterns and themes in their lives so that we can move them towards ACCEPTANCE and inspired ACTION. If you answer these, you’ll gain some incredible insight and you can share your answers with me if you want complimentary feedback.
Words (Articles & Essays About REALNESS) – There are loads of free articles and essays on tOutcome-Independence: The Art of Living Badlyhis website about growing real and some of the insights and ideas that can help you along the way.
Some good starting points:
Unshakeable Abundance: How to Live From Your Realness and Kill the Fear of Loss.
Outcome-Independence: The Art of Living Badly
The Void: Becoming Whole by Becoming One with the Hole
The Train: A Metaphor for the Good Life and Growing Real
Balls Back 101: A Master Class in Reclaiming Your Balls and Living Your Truth
Why grow real?
Growing REAL is what we’re here to do – in simple terms, it means that we are moving towards more WHOLENESS within ourselves so that we can be more connected to the world at large through a sense of real purpose.
REALNESS is ultimately about stepping away from your conditioning and unresolved emotional ‘stuff’ so you can return to a more natural state of being. The benefits are myriad but here are some that I have noticed in my own life and in the lifes of my coaching clients:
- Increased self-confidence and authentic self-expression
- Inner fulfillment and deep self-acceptance
- Healthier and more meaningful relationships
- A more active approach to living with less hestitation and doubt
- Alignment with true desires, aspirations, and purpose
- Greater sense of fulfillment in personal and professional life
- Enhanced emotional well-being and resilience
- Cultivation of creativity and authentic self-expression
- Making a positive impact on others and the world
- Unleashing your creative potential and discovering new talents and abilities
- Embracing vulnerability and taking risks in your creative pursuits
- Cultivating a deeper connection with your intuition and inner guidance
- Experiencing a sense of flow and inspiration in your creative endeavours
- Opening yourself to new perspectives and expanding your creativity
- Fostering innovation and originality in your work and projects
- Connecting with your authentic voice and unique artistic expression
- Finding joy, fulfillment, and a sense of purpose through creative outlets
- Inspiring and influencing others through your authentic creative expression
- Loads more!
REALNESS IN YOUR INBOX
Join my emailing list to get regular reflections on growing real in life and business.
When you join you’ll get full access to the 7-Day Personality Transplant System Shock for Realness & Life Purpose and an exclusive 158-page workbook.
BOOKS
Personal Revolutions: A Short Course in Realness – this book contains 166 ‘Revolutions’ to help you reframe your relationship with reality and a ton of self-guidance questions so you can truly integrate your learning.
If you need some fresh perspective or simply want to go deeper into self-acceptance then this book will help you reconfigure the way that you hold yourself back with your EGO so you can replace it with something REAL.
Shadow Life: Freedom from BS in an Unreal World – this book is a quick punch in the face that will help you to gain an understanding of the dance between the EGO and the SHADOW SELF.
It will give you a breakdown of your psyche and your relationship with yourself so you can unblock and move with reality towards wholeness.
Flow Builder Journal: In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, finding a sense of flow and purpose can feel like an elusive goal. This journal is designed to be your steadfast companion on this journey, helping you to build momentum, clarity, and a deep connection with your REALNESS.
Every page of the Flow Builder is crafted to guide you through your days, weeks, and months with intentionality and focus. By dedicating time each morning and evening to reflect, plan, and dream, you are taking powerful steps towards unlocking your potential and overcoming the obstacles that stand in your way as you move forward with inspired action.
Let’s chat! Book a complementary ‘Virtual Coffee’ with me to get a feel for my coaching and see if I can help you:
Here are some things people have been saying about my coaching calls:
“I love this new me, I know that the end product will be a total beast, feel like I’m part way there!! Ringing you was the best thing I ever did!!!”
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“I have become very determined to see my work through. I have learned loads.”
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“The main benefits of this action-packed coaching package were dissolving unrealness and the masks and Oli’s compassion, patience, and brilliance.”
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“I am not a victim anymore.”
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“As a result of this coaching journey I have fully explored my ideas and how to make them real, pushing myself beyond my normal levels of analysis and understanding.”
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“The main benefit of this coaching package was finally pushing myself out of the ‘preparation’ phase and into action.”
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“I used to be unreal with fear and shame (predominantly) I have broken through that layer and now there feels like there is nothing else worth doing than making my ambitions reality.”
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“I definitely have more confidence in my abilities and what I can achieve.”
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“Has given me renewed energy.”
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“I now feel confident that I can look for a better job, one which aligns with the creative work I want to be doing and I know I am capable of. “
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“I am more comfortable with the artwork I produce as a creative. No longer do I feel like my art is not good enough. Now I am getting more comfortable in my skin and with who I am. “
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“I have learned that I am capable of overcoming my impostor syndrome and perfectionism to make progress towards my goals.”
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“I have been able to balance my work life, working on my personal goals, and my family life.”
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“I feel calmer and able to reflect in the moment.”
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“I feel like I am flowing again”
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“I have grown more emotionally mature.”
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“I feel more comfortable and confident with myself.”
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“My desires, my relationship patterns, my wounds, the connection
between my inner and outer states…as within so without has never been this clear.”
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“There were some epic moments.”
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“Oli really helped me delve deeper into myself and uncover my true goals and desires. He helped me discover that fear could not (would not) stop me getting where I want to be.”
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“Oli really showed me how we create fears and obstacles ourselves – and that freeing our mind of self-structured barriers is possible and essential for the process.”
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“Within the series of coaching, I gained the trust (or better say re-gained) that I can and will pursue my business goal, which steps I will take, and that no plans are too big.”
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“Oli handled firmly held limiting beliefs with persistence and sensitivity that lead to many moments of personal insight.”
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“Oli’s style is supportive, warm, and inspiring.”
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“I gained such clarity on my current situation and where I needed to make progress. My goals were made clear, together with the action steps I had to take to accomplish them. I gained insight into how to direct my time and energy to achieve my objectives.”
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“The coaching techniques Oli used helped raise my awareness and change certain unhealthy unconscious behaviour for the better.”
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“The impact of Oli’s coaching has been very significant and had an almost profound impact on my life. We explored me finding a more real and genuine version of who I was which resulted in me developing a new look, dating someone for the first time in four years and, most significantly, me leaving my job of eleven years to explore a different path in life.”
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“Oli’s coaching was very timely, powerful, and insightful.”
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“Oli asked amazing questions that made me think about things in different perspectives. Looking at things how I’d never seen them before really helped me see life differently and made me make decisions I would have never thought possible.”
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“Extremely useful. Allowed me to take a look at my life from a different perspective.”
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“I was initially somewhat cynical of ‘coaching’ but would absolutely recommend others use Oli’s services in the future.”
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