Oh, hi there.
I’m Oli Anderson and I’m a Transformational Coach for Realness and author who helps driven people like you to become unstuck, bring more REALNESS into their lives, and to move towards their potential by building balance and flow. I can help you to feel like you’re really living life and getting RESULTS at the same time.
IT ALWAYS COMES BACK TO REALNESS
Realness is a transformative philosophy that invites individuals to embrace their true selves, align with the interconnectedness of all things, and live authentically. It is a journey of self-discovery, characterised by three fundamental principles: Awareness, Acceptance, and Action.
Through heightened awareness, individuals uncover their ego-driven patterns and unconscious assumptions, allowing them to deconstruct the illusions of separation and embrace their wholeness.
Acceptance involves integrating the shadow self, acknowledging and embracing both the light and dark aspects within, fostering self-compassion and personal growth.
Taking inspired action based on this newfound self-awareness and acceptance empowers individuals to manifest a real life aligned with their values, purpose, and the collective well-being.
Realness encourages genuine connections, creative expression, and meaningful contributions to the world, ultimately leading to a more harmonious and fulfilling existence for individuals and society as a whole.
Realness is good for your life and business because REAL ALWAYS WORKS (what else is gonna work besides what’s REAL?)
A REAL Conversation Can Change Your Life: How I Can Help
The main way that I can help you is through coaching which ultimately goes like this: we create trust, I ask you direct questions in a judgement-free container, then you reveal yourself to yourself.
This isn’t something like therapy where you’ll spend the rest of your life talking about the same problems – it’s about helping you to stop holding back, hesitating, and hypnotising yourself with unreal stories and dissolving your programming so that you can be who you really are.
This isn’t something that you can understand conceptually but something that you need to EXEPRIENCE (so book a call if this is what you’re looking for).
If you’re currently struggling to be who you know you can be, then you’re caught up in being unreal with yourself and can’t see your own potential (I can though – I’ll help you reveal it and relight the fire it brings). My coaching will walk you through a process of cultivating AWARENESS, growing in ACCEPTANCE, and taking inspired ACTION so you can feel REAL again.
Here are 10 ‘rules’ I adhere to with my coaching relationships:
- I will always speak to the realest version of you that is available to us.
- I will come from a real place (even if that means difficult conversations or even that we don’t end up working together). We act together in service of helping you 1) uncover the truth, 2) live the truth.
- I won’t waste too much time dragging up your problems but will explore what’s already real and allow it to grow outwards into your life as you start to lean into it instead of shrinking. If problems are obstacles then we will find solutions (or work to accept what can’t be changed because it’s just part of life – eg. Death).
- I will guide you but never tell you what to do or set the agenda for you. I’m not trying to ‘fix’ you but simply to help you see yourself clearly in your own realness.
- I won’t aim to coach you for the rest of your life. I will get you to a place where you don’t need coaching (unless you’re working on something really specific).
- I’m not going to give you conceptual information or teaching about transformation. I’m going to help you create the conditions so you can experience transformation yourself.
- I know that we all share fundamental similarities (because of how life just is) but also that we’re all unique and incomparable. I want to find what works for you. This is the only way for you to be ‘seen’ and to reveal yourself through inspired action.
- My only real job is to illuminate what’s already real so you can do something with it instead of holding back behind fear, hesitation, and doubt.
- Our goal is to create space for you to trust yourself and to trust life. This is the key to constant evolution and expansion.
- Self-hypnosis and programming make us more miserable than life ever could. Together we will explore how this might apply in your life so you can live your real life instead of an unreal one.
I have loads of resources to help you grow real- including some practical free ‘stuff’ (keep scrolling).
Here’s a list to get you started:
COACHING FOR REALNESS / CREATIVE PARTNER IN CRIME
Bespoke coaching packages – When it comes to growing real, everybody’s path is different. My standard way of working with people is to help them to move deeper into realness in four-month blocks (with 8 sessions in this period and daily accountability support in between).
During this period, we’ll aim to get you to a TANGIBLE place in life or business where you’re moving in a real way and no longer holding yourself back from your REAL life and potential.
The only way to know if my coaching is what you’re looking for is to EXPERIENCE it and to see if it’s something you might be committed to (anybody who tells you coaching works without a commitment on both sides is probably BS’ing you).
You can book a free call here:
The Creative Performance Transformation Lab – this is an intense one-month coaching container and creative partnership for anybody with a personal or creative brand that wants to upgrade their business fast and get results.
Over the course of four weeks, we’ll go DEEP into fleshing out the philosophy behind your brand, turning it into a transformational framework for delivering value, creating targeted offers, and putting foundations in place to grow your business fast. Youl’ll do so much in a short-term it’ll blow your mind.
PODCAST: CREATIVE STATUS – Deconstruct Ego, Integrate Shadow, Manifest Real Life
Creative Status is a podcast about the creative process and how creativity is ultimately a vehicle for allowing our realness to emerge as we move from a fragmented state to a state of wholeness.
Every Monday, I release an episode where I interview REAL human beings about the creative journey they’ve been on in their own lives and the insight and practical tips they garnered along the way.
If you’re working on some of this ‘stuff’ in your own life and you want to dive into the human experience then Creative Status can help you guide yourself there quicker.
FREE COURSES & RESOURCES FOR REALNESS
Ego / Shadow / Trust (Building FLOW and Becoming Unstuck) –
Feeling stuck and ready to start BUILDING FLOW in your life?
This free guide by emphasises the importance of Awareness, Acceptance, and Action when it comes to taking a transformational journey in life.
It walks you through three vital stages of transforming your life forever (with practical tips): Deconstructing the Ego, Integrating the Shadow, and learning to TRUST yourself and life.
The 7-Day Personality Transplant System Shock for Realness & Life Purpose – this is an INTENSE 7-day video course to give you a shock to the system and help you see how you’re holding yourself back from REAL life.
By the time you’re done, you’ll have finished 7-modules in REALNESS and will have a clear sense of purpose and vision for the future. The course comes with an exlusive 158-page workbook to ensure you go deep into your learning and get actual results.
Bare Ass Minimum (BAM) Challenge – This is a simple 7-day challenge to help you start to improve your life immediately by implementing the BARE ASS MINIMUM of foundational health habits, vision setting, goals, and daily tasks to make it all happen.
Every day I’ll send you a simple but highly practical email so that by the end of the week you’ll know exactly what you need to do to start building and living your REAL life.
Creative Brand Workshop for Creatives, Coaches, & Solopreneurs (etc) – This one-hour workshop can help you to design a PHILOSOPHY around your creative brand or project. This will ensure that whatever you’re doing is REAL and that you can connect to the right people in a way that actually matters to you.
The workshop uses a design tool (the Truth Bomb Brand Design & UX Canvas) to walk you through understanding your project at four key levels: Substance, Style, Communication, & Community. This will level you up fast and inspire you to dream big.
The 90-Day Journal Prompt Challenge – This is a free workbook with 90-days of journal prompts to help you get into the journalling habit whilst growing real. It will take you on a journey of rasing AWARENESS (always the first step in a transformational journey) so that you can start taking REAL action and living a better life.
Hamster Wheel Thought Log – This is a really simple but effective tool adapted from CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy).
It’s designed to help you TRAIN YOURSELF to eventually stop negative thoughts in their track so that you can be empowered to CHOOSE to respond instead of just automatically reacting. This way you can focus on the REAL action you want to take so you can live your real life.
Extremely Personal Questions – This is a list of (extremely) personal questions that I use with some of my coaching clients in the early stages of their journey.
It’s a great way for them to start gaining AWARENESS of the patterns and themes in their lives so that we can move them towards ACCEPTANCE and inspired ACTION. If you answer these, you’ll gain some incredible insight and you can share your answers with me if you want complimentary feedback.
Words (Articles & Essays About REALNESS) – There are loads of free articles and essays on tOutcome-Independence: The Art of Living Badlyhis website about growing real and some of the insights and ideas that can help you along the way.
Some good starting points:
Unshakeable Abundance: How to Live From Your Realness and Kill the Fear of Loss.
Outcome-Independence: The Art of Living Badly
The Void: Becoming Whole by Becoming One with the Hole
The Train: A Metaphor for the Good Life and Growing Real
Balls Back 101: A Master Class in Reclaiming Your Balls and Living Your Truth
Why grow real?
Growing REAL is what we’re here to do – in simple terms, it means that we are moving towards more WHOLENESS within ourselves so that we can be more connected to the world at large through a sense of real purpose.
REALNESS is ultimately about stepping away from your conditioning and unresolved emotional ‘stuff’ so you can return to a more natural state of being. The benefits are myriad but here are some that I have noticed in my own life and in the lifes of my coaching clients:
- Increased self-confidence and authentic self-expression
- Inner fulfillment and deep self-acceptance
- Healthier and more meaningful relationships
- A more active approach to living with less hestitation and doubt
- Alignment with true desires, aspirations, and purpose
- Greater sense of fulfillment in personal and professional life
- Enhanced emotional well-being and resilience
- Cultivation of creativity and authentic self-expression
- Making a positive impact on others and the world
- Unleashing your creative potential and discovering new talents and abilities
- Embracing vulnerability and taking risks in your creative pursuits
- Cultivating a deeper connection with your intuition and inner guidance
- Experiencing a sense of flow and inspiration in your creative endeavours
- Opening yourself to new perspectives and expanding your creativity
- Fostering innovation and originality in your work and projects
- Connecting with your authentic voice and unique artistic expression
- Finding joy, fulfillment, and a sense of purpose through creative outlets
- Inspiring and influencing others through your authentic creative expression
- Loads more!
REALNESS IN YOUR INBOX
Join my emailing list to get regular reflections on growing real in life and business.
When you join you’ll get full access to the 7-Day Personality Transplant System Shock for Realness & Life Purpose and an exclusive 158-page workbook.
BOOKS
Personal Revolutions: A Short Course in Realness – this book contains 166 ‘Revolutions’ to help you reframe your relationship with reality and a ton of self-guidance questions so you can truly integrate your learning.
If you need some fresh perspective or simply want to go deeper into self-acceptance then this book will help you reconfigure the way that you hold yourself back with your EGO so you can replace it with something REAL.
Shadow Life: Freedom from BS in an Unreal World – this book is a quick punch in the face that will help you to gain an understanding of the dance between the EGO and the SHADOW SELF.
It will give you a breakdown of your psyche and your relationship with yourself so you can unblock and move with reality towards wholeness.
Flow Builder Journal: In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, finding a sense of flow and purpose can feel like an elusive goal. This journal is designed to be your steadfast companion on this journey, helping you to build momentum, clarity, and a deep connection with your REALNESS.
Every page of the Flow Builder is crafted to guide you through your days, weeks, and months with intentionality and focus. By dedicating time each morning and evening to reflect, plan, and dream, you are taking powerful steps towards unlocking your potential and overcoming the obstacles that stand in your way as you move forward with inspired action.
Let’s chat! Book a complementary ‘Virtual Coffee’ with me to get a feel for my coaching and see if I can help you:
Here are some things people have been saying about my coaching calls:
“I love this new me, I know that the end product will be a total beast, feel like I’m part way there!! Ringing you was the best thing I ever did!!!”
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“I have become very determined to see my work through. I have learned loads.”
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“The main benefits of this action-packed coaching package were dissolving unrealness and the masks and Oli’s compassion, patience, and brilliance.”
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“I am not a victim anymore.”
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“As a result of this coaching journey I have fully explored my ideas and how to make them real, pushing myself beyond my normal levels of analysis and understanding.”
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“The main benefit of this coaching package was finally pushing myself out of the ‘preparation’ phase and into action.”
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“I used to be unreal with fear and shame (predominantly) I have broken through that layer and now there feels like there is nothing else worth doing than making my ambitions reality.”
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“I definitely have more confidence in my abilities and what I can achieve.”
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“Has given me renewed energy.”
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“I now feel confident that I can look for a better job, one which aligns with the creative work I want to be doing and I know I am capable of. “
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“I am more comfortable with the artwork I produce as a creative. No longer do I feel like my art is not good enough. Now I am getting more comfortable in my skin and with who I am. “
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“I have learned that I am capable of overcoming my impostor syndrome and perfectionism to make progress towards my goals.”
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“I have been able to balance my work life, working on my personal goals, and my family life.”
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“I feel calmer and able to reflect in the moment.”
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“I feel like I am flowing again”
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“I have grown more emotionally mature.”
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“I feel more comfortable and confident with myself.”
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“My desires, my relationship patterns, my wounds, the connection
between my inner and outer states…as within so without has never been this clear.”
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“There were some epic moments.”
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“Oli really helped me delve deeper into myself and uncover my true goals and desires. He helped me discover that fear could not (would not) stop me getting where I want to be.”
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“Oli really showed me how we create fears and obstacles ourselves – and that freeing our mind of self-structured barriers is possible and essential for the process.”
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“Within the series of coaching, I gained the trust (or better say re-gained) that I can and will pursue my business goal, which steps I will take, and that no plans are too big.”
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“Oli handled firmly held limiting beliefs with persistence and sensitivity that lead to many moments of personal insight.”
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“Oli’s style is supportive, warm, and inspiring.”
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“I gained such clarity on my current situation and where I needed to make progress. My goals were made clear, together with the action steps I had to take to accomplish them. I gained insight into how to direct my time and energy to achieve my objectives.”
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“The coaching techniques Oli used helped raise my awareness and change certain unhealthy unconscious behaviour for the better.”
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“The impact of Oli’s coaching has been very significant and had an almost profound impact on my life. We explored me finding a more real and genuine version of who I was which resulted in me developing a new look, dating someone for the first time in four years and, most significantly, me leaving my job of eleven years to explore a different path in life.”
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“Oli’s coaching was very timely, powerful, and insightful.”
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“Oli asked amazing questions that made me think about things in different perspectives. Looking at things how I’d never seen them before really helped me see life differently and made me make decisions I would have never thought possible.”
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“Extremely useful. Allowed me to take a look at my life from a different perspective.”
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“I was initially somewhat cynical of ‘coaching’ but would absolutely recommend others use Oli’s services in the future.”
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