by Oli Anderson, Transformational Coach for Realness
Everybody wants to be ‘seen’.
That’s just the way human beings are – they need to feel that they ‘belong’ and that the world understands them at some REAL level so that all of the pain and the BS of being born is WORTH IT.
What a lot of people don’t get, though, is that the easiest way to be ‘seen’ is to SHOW OTHERS that you SEE them…
When you can do that it shows that you can peek from behind all of the UNREAL ‘stuff’ or masks that most people are hiding behind and that you can take a place in the world that’s ROOTED in something REAL.
When people become lost and feel like they haven’t been ‘seen’ for a long time then they can start to lose their minds:
-They become bitter and malevolent, frustrated that the world is neglecting them.
-They start screaming out and acting out for ATTENTION because they think it’s the same as the love they feel is lacking.
-They put their walls up and turn their ego into a fortress to protect them from anything that goes against how they want to ‘see’ themselves.
-They start unnecessary DRAMA for the sake of pulling people into a vortex that might give them at least a glimpse of something real (buut rarely ever does because drama is always unreal).
The TRUTH is that any attempts to demand that the world ‘see’ you without opening your eyes and attempting to see it first are FUTILE.
“We don’t see the world as it is but as we ARE”
If you’re looking to be ‘seen’ without first seeing yourself then you’ll always be BLIND and the world will be filled with darkness.
To be REAL, you have to COMMIT to the TRUTH that what is WHOLE in one of us is whole in ALL of us because everything is connected and we share more similarities than differences.
If you want the world to ‘see’ you then you need to DEVOTE yourself to seeing what’s REAL about it – even when things get hard or when the world of ideas and fragmentation starts to SHAKE you from yourself.
Love and ACCEPTANCE are the same thing… Just because you don’t ‘see’ it or feel ‘seen’ doesn’t mean it’s not there.
The truth is the truth and is ALWAYS true.
Sometimes, you’ve just blocked yourself from seeing it but all you need to do is to open your eyes and GIVE it.
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