An excuse is really just a reality deflection device that we use when:
1) We don’t want to accept some sort of feedback from life and GROW through it.
2) We don’t want to accept some truth or RESPONSIBILITY about ourselves and face its consequences.
The thing about excuses is that people who make them are only FOOLING THEMSELVES.
In the short-term, it stops them from having to face the unresolved SHAME that the situation they’re making excuses about is triggering.
In the long-term, it only perpetuates and DEEPENS the hold that this shame has over them.
If you can’t remember, it goes like this:
1. Shame sends people into hiding because they get TRICKED into believing there’s something inherently ‘wrong’ with them.
2. They hide behind the mask of the ego and send certain ‘unacceptable’ parts of themselves down into the SHADOW TERRITORY.
3. When something happens that exposes the GAP between the unreality (ego) and the reality (the truth and the ‘hidden’ parts down in the shadow territory) then things get WEIRD.
Excuses are what happens when somebody is DESPERATE to avoid the truth about themselves and to defend all of the UNREAL ideas that stpp them accepting who they truly are.
The TRUTH is that in reality you don’t NEED excuses because when you’re being REAL you only have acceptance.
Why’s that important?
Because excuses are just the ego’s (futile) attempt to use unreality to defend unreality.
In other words, excuses are completely redundant – an attempt to uphold illusions with illusions to avoid short-term discomfort of EMBRACING and then DISSOLVING the shame that makes us want to hide in the first place.
Any time you find yourself or somebody caught up in an endless parade of:
“Yeah, but…”
“If only…”
“Cudda, wudda, shudda…”
Etc.
Then you can bet your bottom dollar it’s a form of RESISTANCE (to reality).
The REAL ONES don’t need excuses – they either ACCEPT the choices they made, EMBRACE the truth, or they OWN the screw up and take the lessons on board.
Step beyond JUDGEMENT (which is powerless without shame) and accept the truth:
WHAT’S REAL IS ALWAYS REAL.
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