Every so often, I like to remind people that a super power we all have is to say “NO”.
When you say “No” to something UNREAL then it frees you up to say “Yes” to the real stuff – your true values, your true intentions, your true purpose, and most importantly your TRUE SELF.
The problem for a lot of us is that we make a lot of the decisions about our lives and what we want to do with them based on an UNREAL IMAGE of ourselves:
-We don’t believe in ourselves so we CHOOSE jobs, relationships, or ‘friendships’ that aren’t healthy or satisfying.
-We don’t believe in the world so we think that we just have to follow our SOCIAL CONDITIONING and do what we’re TOLD.
-We don’t believe in reality so we don’t acknowledge that we can GROW REAL through a lot of our limitations (and when we can’t we can learn to ACCEPT and be more CREATIVE with these limitations).
When you make choices about your life from the UNREAL side of who you are (i.e. the EGO which is designed as a response to the Unholy Trinity of shame, guilt, and/or trauma and serves as a barrier to keep your SHADOW at bay – see Shadow Life: Freedom from Bs in an Unreal World) then what you get from life is equally UNREAL.
It’s pretty simple:
Unreal goes in -> Unreal comes out
Real goes in -> Real comes out
If you’re lucky enough to have something ‘bad’ happen or if you step up and do the WORK then you can start to go through the process of becoming aware of how the world you’ve CHOSEN is UNREAL:
Asleep -> Awareness -> Acceptance -> Action
If you stay ASLEEP you will feel the restless call of the void as your shadow calls to you from beneath the surface.
If you become AWARE you’ll start to feel frustrated at what you’ve CHOSEN for yourself.
If you start to ACCEPT you’ll understand why you made those choices and FORGIVE yourself.
If you accept you can start taking ACTION and the first step is to set the BOUNDARY by saying “NO” to the unreal stuff that doesn’t serve you.
Like anything, it’s a PROCESS – you might not just up and leave but you can CHECKOUT MENTALLY.
When you’ve done that the next step is to work on bringing the REAL STUFF and to keep walking.
No dramas, no stress, no malice.
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