by Oli Anderson, Transformational Coach for Realness
TRUST: A Manual for Becoming the Void, Building Flow, and Finding Peace
Let Go. Step Forward. Trust the Process.
Learning to TRUST is the foundation of building and enjoying a real life – this book will teach you how to return to your true nature and to use trust to grow real and keep flowing.
I’ll show you how Trust is the difference between living in F.E.A.R and living in flow – how it’s the foundation of real confidence, inner peace, and the ability to take bold action without hesitation so you can live a life you actually want to be living (instead of one of those “lives of quiet desperation” that so many people fall into the trap of living because they don’t or can’t trust).
Look at the world around you and you’ll see that – for most people – trust is broken and buried under infinite, fragmented layers of control, doubt, and SHAME (the only thing that disconnects us from TRUTH in the first place).
TRUST is a guide to rebuilding that foundation in your own life – it will show you how to let go of the Ego’s unreal force and control, develop real trust in yourself and life, and finally move forward without hesitation by reconnecting to the TRUTH about yourself and life itself.
What You’ll Learn
This book is not just about understanding trust – it’s about experiencing and living it. Through practical exercises, real-world applications, and evidence for the topics under discussion, you’ll learn how to:
- Build unshakable self-trust so you can handle anything life throws at you.
- Shift from overthinking and control into ease and flow.
- Dissolve the shame and F.E.A.R (“false evidence appearing real”) that keep you stuck.
- Strengthen the “trust muscle” so you see real results in your life.
- Work with reality instead of fighting against it.
Every chapter also includes a Transformational Bridge Meditation / Exercise designed to help you integrate these lessons into your daily life and the whole book will disrupt unhelpful and unreal ways of thinking and being in the world so you can reconnect to something TRUE and get actual results from your life.
Dig Deeper
Trust is not a surface-level self-help book – it will take you DEEP and transform your life from the inside-out:
TRUST is for:
- Thinkers, philosophers, and dreamers who see through mainstream self-improvement and want something deeper.
- Seekers who have done inner work but still feel stuck in patterns of control or fear and feel that there must be something ‘more’ or ‘missing’ (there is – Trust will help you discover it).
- High performers who have achieved ‘success’ but still feel restless, anxious, or disconnected and want to grow REAL.
- Anyone who knows they need to let go of something unreal but doesn’t know how.
What You’ll Learn
This book is structured around a evidence-based process for dissolving shame, rewiring your nervous system, and developing real trust – the kind that leads to undeniable results by connecting you more deeply to life.
It will help you to Deconstruct the Ego, Integrate the Shadow Self, and TRUST yourself and life by taking REAL Action.
Table of Contents + Practical Takeaways
Introduction: The Baby on the Bridge
We start by exploring why trust in yourself and life is not blind faith but an active process of stepping into the unknown. This first chapter sets the tone of the book and helps you understand the journey you’re about to embark upon.
PART 1: UNDERSTANDING TRUST AND ITS ENEMIES
- Shame – The Enemy of Trust
- Why shame is the real reason you struggle with trust because it disconnects you from the TRUTH.
- How shame creates control, F.E.A.R, and hesitation.
- What to start doing to dissolve your shame instead of being driven by it for the rest of your life.
- The Void and How to Become It
- What the Void is and where it comes from.
- Why trying to “fill the void” never works because you need to become it.
- How embracing the Void in a real way can set you free.
- The Shadow Self – How Trust and Your Real Nature Became Disowned
- How childhood conditioning made you stop trusting yourself.
- Exploring the great Shadow Dance between the Ego and the Shadow Self.
- How embracing the Shadow Self can help you to overcome shame, holding back, and hesitation in your life.
- Worrying and Addiction
- Why worry is an addiction, not a rational response.
- The illusion of control and why it keeps you stuck.
- Why we get addicted to things and how to overcome these addictions (by starving our Gremlins)
- How addiction causes problems in our life and what to do about it.
- Facing the Pain – What’s Real is Always Real
- How avoiding pain blocks trust and causes you to stop growing.
- Practical steps for facing your pain and illusions and overcoming them once and for all.
PART 2: REWIRING YOUR MIND-BODY SYSTEM FOR TRUST
- The Ego is an Addiction
- Why your identity fights against trust and what to do about it.
- How to detach from ego-driven control mechanisms.
- How to let go of ego and start growing real again.
- Overcoming Fear – Trusting Life and Truth vs. Trusting the World and Its People
- How to trust life itself without being naïve about people.
- Why real trust is built on truth, not blind optimism.
- How to survive in a world that’s designed to stop you trusting yourself and life.
- Creativity & Play – The Shadow Self, Your Inner Child, and Masculine-Feminine Polarity
- How creativity is the way to rebuild trust.
- The link between trust and play, polarity, and surrender.
- What exactly creativity is and how it can help you make the unconscious conscious.
- Forgiveness, Death, and How to Let Go
- Why facing death will free you to be real.
- The relationship between trust and forgiveness.
- Why forgiveness will free you and take you into acceptance and flow.
- Unconscious Intentions, the Boomerang Effect, & The Law of Attraction for Realness
- How the unconscious mind plays a role in your life and how to master it.
- What the law of attraction really is and how to master it.
- How to stop sabotaging yourself and holding yourself back
PART 3: TRUSTING LIFE THROUGH REAL ACTION
- The Storm – Trusting Through Stress
- How to stay grounded and trust in times of trouble and uncertainty.
- How to make the most of the ‘Storms’ in your life so you can keep growing real.
- How everything is a revelation of our realness if we learn to let go.
- Abundance vs. Scarcity – Working with the Tides and the Mountain of Self
- Why trust is the root of true abundance.
- How scarcity patterns keep you in fear and force.
- How abundance really works and how to stay in its flow.
- Life’s Pure Signal – Entering the Zero Point and Finding the Messy Place
- The breakthrough that happens when you fully let go.
- How to tell when you are forcing vs. flowing.
- How to get rid of ego distortion and resistance and tune into real life.
- Synchronicity – Dharma and a Personal Relationship with Life Itself
- How trust aligns you with your natural path (Dharma).
- The relationship between the conscious, unconscious, and superconscious mind.
- How to put yourself back on a your real path.
- Gratitude and Humility – The Golden Key to the Garden
- Why gratitude isn’t just an emotion – it’s a trust practice.
- How humility is the opposite of shame.
- How to develop habits for realness.
- Ego, Shadow, Trust – Your Nervous System and Real Life
- How your nervous system determines how much you can trust.
- Rewiring the ego-body system for trust instead of control.
- Changing your life through Awareness, Acceptance, and Action
Outro: Peace – “I Am that I Am”
The final stage of trust: finding deep peace and returning to wholeness.
Are You Ready to Trust?
Most people live their whole lives trapped in control, fear, and hesitation. But you don’t have to.
If you’re ready to:
- Stop second-guessing yourself.
- Dissolve the shame that holds you back.
- Start living in trust, not fear.
- Develop a REAL relationship with yourself and life.
This book will guide you through the process.
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𝗧𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁: 𝗔 𝗠𝗮𝗻𝘂𝗮𝗹 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗩𝗼𝗶𝗱, 𝗕𝘂𝗶𝗹𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗙𝗹𝗼𝘄, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗙𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗣𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗲
The main theme of the book is that we’re all born to be able to trust ourselves and life but because of SHAME we become disconnected from the TRUTH and go hurtling into the VOID.
Once there, we feel all kinds of restless itches that can never be scratched but try anyway by looking for all kinds of substitutes for the truth to take away the TENSION of being unreal. This can lead to anxiety, depression, and addiction and the endless quest to try and fill something that can never be filled because we need to become it.
This book will show you how to start turning back towards reality and away from the Void so that you can find a sense of flow and peace whilst taking REAL ACTION and doing something meaningful with your life.
If you’re sick of spiritual bullsh*ttery and wishful thinking, this book will help you to make deep changes in your life at the level of your body (nervous system regulation etc.), mind (managing your thoughts and ego etc.) and beyond (bringing your true nature back out of the SHADOW TERRITORY).
Ultimately, ‘Trust’ will help you take yourself from a state of fragmentation into deeper wholeness by helping you understand exactly what the ‘human condition’ really is and what you can ‘do’ (and not ‘do’) about it.
Every chapter has a special exercise for implementation called a ‘𝗧𝗿𝗮𝗻𝘀𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗕𝗿𝗶𝗱𝗴𝗲’ – you can use this in journaling or meditation so that you’re not just filling your head with more concepts by reading the book but are actually EXPERIENCING what it talks about.
𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗽𝘁𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝘀𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁:
𝟭: 𝗦𝗵𝗮𝗺𝗲 – 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗘𝗻𝗲𝗺𝘆 𝗼𝗳 𝗧𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁
-Looks at how shame causes us to become SPLIT from ourselves and life and get lost to the Void
𝟮: 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗩𝗼𝗶𝗱 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗶𝘁
-Explores the Void in more detail and some of the common misconceptions we have about ‘filling’ it.
𝟯: 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝗵𝗮𝗱𝗼𝘄 𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳 – 𝗛𝗼𝘄 ‘𝗧𝗥𝗨𝗦𝗧’ 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝗡𝗮𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗲 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝗗𝗶𝘀𝗼𝘄𝗻𝗲𝗱
-Helping you understand the SHADOW DANCE between the Ego and the Shadow Self and how you can start reconnecting and integrating the real you.
𝟰: 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗿𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗔𝗱𝗱𝗶𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻
-Dives into the futility of worrying and its relationship to addiction. Also looks at what addiction is in relation to the Void and how we can overcome our worries and addictions in general.
𝟱: 𝗙𝗮𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗣𝗮𝗶𝗻 – 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝗶𝘀 𝗔𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗹
-If you want to trust, then you need to return to your true nature (REALNESS); if you’ve been a way for a while this is going to involve facing some emotional pain but it’s worth it in the long run.
𝟲: 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗘𝗴𝗼 𝗶𝘀 𝗮𝗻 𝗔𝗱𝗱𝗶𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻
-Going deeper into the Ego, why and how it holds us back, and how we can put it in the back seat instead of being driven by it.
𝟳: 𝗢𝘃𝗲𝗿𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗙𝗲𝗮𝗿 – 𝗧𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗧𝗿𝘂𝘁𝗵 𝘃𝘀. 𝗧𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗹𝗱 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗶𝘁𝘀 𝗣𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲
-The opposite of trust is fear and so if we can improve our relationship with unreal fear then we can let go and live our real lives. That’s the gist of this chapter (especially in relation to the ‘World’ vs. REALITY).
𝟴: 𝗖𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗶𝘁𝘆 & 𝗣𝗹𝗮𝘆 – 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝗵𝗮𝗱𝗼𝘄 𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳, 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗜𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝗖𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗱, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗠𝗮𝘀𝗰𝘂𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲-𝗙𝗲𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗣𝗼𝗹𝗮𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘆
-Exploring how we can start to make the unconscious conscious and balance ourselves out for trust.
𝟵: 𝗙𝗼𝗿𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀, 𝗗𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗵, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗟𝗲𝘁 𝗚𝗼
-Learning to embrace DEATH so that we can really learn to forgive ourselves and others so we can let go and get back into real life.
𝟭𝟬: 𝗨𝗻𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗰𝗶𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝗜𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀, 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗕𝗼𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗻𝗴 𝗘𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗰𝘁, & 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗟𝗮𝘄 𝗼𝗳 𝗔𝘁𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀
-Everything you ever wanted to know about the unconscious mind and how to take control of yours (but were afraid to ask).
𝟭𝟭: 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝘁𝗼𝗿𝗺 – 𝗧𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗧𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵 𝗦𝘁𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀
-How you can keep TRUSTING even when life is difficult or you’re going through stressful storms and tempests. This chapter will help you manage your relationship with stress for good.
𝟭𝟮: 𝗔𝗯𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝘃𝘀. 𝗦𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗰𝗶𝘁𝘆 – 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗧𝗶𝗱𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗠𝗼𝘂𝗻𝘁𝗮𝗶𝗻 𝗼𝗳 ‘𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳’
-Looking at how abundance and scarcity relate to REALNESS vs ego and how you can learn to trust and put yourself back into a state of interdependence.
𝟭𝟯: 𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲’𝘀 𝗣𝘂𝗿𝗲 𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻𝗮𝗹 – 𝗘𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗭𝗲𝗿𝗼 𝗣𝗼𝗶𝗻𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗙𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗠𝗲𝘀𝘀𝘆 𝗣𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗲
-When you let go and trust you can enter a messy and non-linear place where you merge chaos and order but find a pure signal to direct your steps.
𝟭𝟰: 𝗦𝘆𝗻𝗰𝗵𝗿𝗼𝗻𝗶𝗰𝗶𝘁𝘆 – ‘𝗗𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗺𝗮’ 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝗣𝗮𝘁𝗵
-Exploring exactly what synchronicities are (and what they’re NOT) and how they play a role in our journey into REALNESS.
𝟭𝟱: 𝗚𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗱𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗛𝘂𝗺𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 – 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗚𝗼𝗹𝗱𝗲𝗻 𝗞𝗲𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗚𝗮𝗿𝗱𝗲𝗻
-Shows (with evidence) how gratitude is the key to a totally different world…the REAL one.
𝟭𝟲: 𝗘𝗴𝗼, 𝗦𝗵𝗮𝗱𝗼𝘄, 𝗧𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁 – 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗡𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝗦𝘆𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗺 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲
-How you can bring everything together for Awareness, Acceptance, and Action
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Peace and stay real out there,
Trust: A Manual for Becoming the Void, Building Flow, and Finding Peace is a book about learning to return to your realness by cultivating trust in yourself and trust in life.
It contains practical exercises and dedicated meditations (Transformational Bridges) to take you DEEP in knowing yourself and life.
This book will answer many of the questions you have growing REAL and flowing towards wholeness. It covers everything from shame to addiction to the unconscious mind and synchronicity (and way more).
Personal Revolutions: A Short Course in Realness is a book designed to help you look at your life from the inside-out so that you can stop holding yourself back and go get what you really want.
It contains 166 practical ‘Revolutions’ for awareness and over 8,000 Self-Guidance Questions for you to uncover new insight about yourself, the world, and reality that you can translate into action and start building your real life on the realest possible foundation.
Shadow Life is an exploration of the human shadow and the hidden side of our personalities. It looks at the masks we wear, where these masks come from, and how we can take them off.
The book explores how we can better manage our relationships with shame, guilt, and trauma in order to remove the Mask that the world has asked us to wear (and that we forgot we were wearing) so we can live an authentic life with less drama, chaos, or BS whilst we’re still around.
The Flow Builder Journal has everything you need to make the next 21-weeks of your life a turning point.
It has monthly, weekly, and daily (morning and evening) check-ins, tools and reflections to keep you in the zone and keep you flowing with zest and momentum.
If you want to get unstuck and grow REAL then check it out.
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