by Oli Anderson, Transformational Coach for Realness
Comparisons are odious (that’s how the old saying goes, anyway).
If you compare your behind-the-scenes footage of your own ‘stuff’ to somebody else’s highlight reel then you’re gonna have a BAD time.
In fact, you might not even have a ‘bad’ time because you probably won’t even get started – you’ll just kinda be…stuck.
A lot of you never get going because you’re too busy COMPARING your own perceived weaknesses to the strengths of other people.
Or you COMPARE the results that somebody else has got after years and years of working away at it with wherever you happen to be right now.
You compare superficialities like how good looking somebody is or how charming or how well they can speak or whatever else…
NONE OF THAT STUFF MATTERS, THOUGH.
That’s just your ego trying to keep you where you are so you don’t STRETCH yourself and start growing REAL again.
The TRUTH is that to get stuff ‘DONE’ you only need to follow a simple two-step process:
1. BELIEVE it can be done.
2. Do the WORK to get it done.
Yeah, there’s a few more things that take place somewhere in between – like TRUSTING and BELIEVING and allowing what needs to happen to happen as you take each step – but that’s the gist of it.
The main difference between ‘You’ and whoever you might be comparing yourself to is that they’re NOT comparing themselves to anybody.
The TRUTH is that you can’t compare anyway – we’re all on our own paths, we all have our own cocktail of strengths and weaknesses, we all have our own crosses to bear.
Comparisons are just a form of RESISTANCE – like we said, it’s your EGO’s way of trying to find reasons not to get started because if you do then the odds are you’ll succeed and so your ego will get a software update (which it can’t stand as that means learning and integrating our ‘stuff’ along the way).
Gain some PERSPECTIVE and see things CLEARLY.
If other people have found a way to do it, then there’s no reason why you can’t too – the only EXCUSES are the one’s you tell yourself when you’re trying to believe that other people are ‘special’ and you’re not.
If you do the work you’ll get there; if you don’t, you won’t.
Know your VALUE and share it.
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