Nothing in this world is worth being obsessed over.
The word ‘obsess’ goes back to late Middle English when it meant to be “haunted or possessed by an evil spirit”.
Maybe that’s still an apt description because when people are caught up in the throes of obsession not only do they lose themselves and their minds but they’ve also given themselves over to some dark power in themselves.
Obsession is UNREAL because it always has the EGO involved – in other words, the only reason anybody would be obsessed with anything is because of some FALSE IMAGE of themselves, the world, or reality.
The ‘evil spirits’ driving this obsession are usually just our unresolved emotional ‘stuff’ (in the form of shame, guilt, and or trauma and the FEAR and/or ANGER that accompanies these demons).
If you’re OBSESSED with something it means that you’re denying parts of yourself (because they’re hidden in your SHADOW) and so you project out certain qualities or ambitions onto the object of your obsession (aka ‘a Unicorn’ – see my book Shadow Life).
The most common things people become obsessed with are:
-Other people, especially in RELATIONSHIPS where we trick ourselves into thinking somebody is the answer to all our prayers (really just our ego’s way of protecting it’s illusions so we don’t have to grow through shadow) instead of growing REAL with them.
-Our own goals, because we’ve become OUTCOME-DEPENDENT and think we can only love ourselves if we attain whatever that goal is.
-The past, because we haven’t been able to find CONCEPTUAL closure and so our brain races around as the demons feed on our energy.
-Certain hobbies or material objects, because we’ve lost touch with our true sense of PURPOSE and need a substitute.
Any OBSESSION will eventually drive you CRAZY because it’s unreal.
If you wanna be REAL, you need to find a relationship, goal, or sense of purpose that you can be DEVOTED to.
The word ‘devotion’ means to make HOLY (WHOLE).
If the ego is made of FRAGMENTS then obsession is just about being further DIVIDED and detached from life because obsession is ego to the extreme.
Devotion is about dedicating yourself to what’s WHOLE in yourself, the world, and REALITY.
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