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You Don’t Need to Force Anything to Get Where You Need to Be

Forcing life to happen in the way that you want it to happen is alway UNREAL.

In real life and nature, NOTHING is forced:

-The grasss doesn’t force itself to grow.

-The trees don’t force themselves to produce fruit or to blow in the wind.

-The clouds don’t force themselves to burst open when it’s time to let the rains out.

-The birds don’t have to force themselves to fly away for the winter.

Everything just happens exactly when it’s supposed to happen – in fact, you could go even further than that and say that it’s beyond any idea of ‘supposed to’ and more accurately we can say “stuff just happens”.

The problem – or difference – of course, is that all of these natural phenomena haven’t been blessed with the ‘extra’, higher-level faculties that human beings have:

-They don’t have human reason.

-They don’t have human drives.

-They don’t have human fears, prides, or desires.

-They don’t have human tendencies to compare or to resist.

-Etc.

All of these things are part of our human NATURE but – if misused – they take us away from nature and life at the same time.

The way we ‘misuse’ them is by using them to turn away from the nature of ourselves and reality and towards the fragmentations and divisions of ‘the world’ (really, just a set of ideas that we project over the truth because of our individual and collective ‘stuff’).

When we turn away like this, we forget that we are CONNECTED to nature and its natural processes and we start to think that we’re of the world alone (which is never reality or nature because those things aren’t just ideas – they’re experiences).

The more attached we become to the world, the more our identity becomes invested in the things that we need to happen in the world to keep that identity in place.

The more we need the world to be real, the more we try and FORCE the things we want in the world to happen – every time we do this, though, we make the choice for fragmentation over wholeness and disconnect ourselves from the process of letting things HAPPEN.

Step back from the world, admit you don’t know everything, and let NATURE work with you.

As the tree brings forth fruit so shall you.

 


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Focusing Too Much On Your Healing Makes You Sick

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Over-identifying with anything makes you sick.

Everything in life is about BALANCE and finding peace as you walk the tightrope between tension and release:

What goes UP must come DOWN and that applies in ALL areas of our lives – if we get too caught up in the PERCEIVED importance of something then it just ends up taking us into the realm of ILLUSIONS.

All illusions bring TENSION and – on a long enough timeline – that tension always finds a way to be released…whether you’re ready for it or not.

One area where people can bring unnecessary tension to their lives is in the area of their own ‘healing’.

This is a tricky realm because as soon as you identify with healing you also identify with its opposite – ‘sickness’.

We can say this because ‘healing’ and ‘sickness’ leave us stuck on the two horns of the same bull of DUALITY – in other words, it brings us to the realm of value judgments and ideas about life instead of life itself in all its REALNESS (which is beyond dualism and the ideas of ‘good’ and ‘bad’).

The truth about life as it unfolds on the VEILED MATRIX of the conceptual is that:

“EVERYTHING CONTAINS THE SEEDS OF ITS OPPOSITE” (Personal Revolutions).

We may like to believe that life is a simple case of black and white opposites like ‘good’ and ‘bad’ or ‘healed’ and ‘sick’ but it never is – it’s SHADES OF GREY and you can never have one without embracing the other.

If you become OBSESSED or too focused on your ‘healing journey’ then all you really end up doing is reminding yourself that you’re SICK (or why else would you be on the journey).

Every time you do that yoga workout for the sake of releasing your trauma, you’re reminding yourself that the sickness is there.

Every time you try and be ‘vulnerable’ and start spilling your guts out, you’re reminding yourself of your own (perceived) weakness.

The TRUTH is that you don’t need to DO ANYTHING to be healed – you just need to let go of the IDEAS that make you believe in your own sickness.

Nor do you need anybody else to ‘heal’ you – that’s impossible because anybody who thinks they’re your ‘healer’ must be sick too (because of duality).

The only sickness is EGO (and that’s never REAL).

 


 

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The Truth Will Make You Humble, Not Arrogant

It is what it is and you either accept it or you don’t.

The truth is WHOLE and if it’s whole then by definition there can only be ONE.

We like to forget this – or even resist the idea completely – because it allows us to feel good about ourselves and stay in our comfort zones.

We like to think that our own INTERPRETATIONS of the fragmented reality we perceive around us is the end of the line but it’s not and never will be.

Our interpretations are interpretations and the TRUTH is the TRUTH.

You can see how this works when two people get caught up in a debate and there are THREE sides to the story:

1-The interpretation of person number one (fragments)

2-The interpretation of person number two (fragments)

3-The actual TRUTH (the WHOLE).

People like to keep the stories that they want to believe about themselves in place. That’s it.

All this really means though is that they have CREATED a story that appears to have an impenetrable INTERPRETATION of the truth built into it that allows them to feel ‘RIGHT’ about things.

When you want to be ‘right’ all the time it just means that you’re over-invested in the STORY you already picked up from the PAST and have no interest in writing a new one.

In this mode, you are lost in your ego and denying your REALNESS in truth every step of the way – you have made an IDOL of the truth itself and think that it is something that exists to serve your EGO and its arrogance.

This couldn’t be further from the truth though as the ego is the direct opposite of reality in truth – it’s a cocktail of LIES and its arrogance is what keeps you from the RELEASE of surrender to the flow of LIFE that fills the soul of your veins without you even knowing.

Using the ‘truth’ to be right all the time can only lead to arrogance and arrogance is the opposite of your REALNESS because when you’re real you don’t need to be ‘more than’ human.

The best relationship with the truth is the one that humbles you by showing you that you’re WRONG.

Only when you’re wrong can you let the light of insight in and LEARN who you really are and what you’re capable of.

That’s better than anything arrogance can ever believe.

 


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