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Self-Judgement is Always Learned. It’s Not Your Natural State.

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Judging yourself (or anybody) isn’t your natural state.

It might feel ‘natural’ if you’ve just taken it onboard as part of your personality but that’s just because you’ve got used to that voice in your head following you around and analysing your every move.

There’s an old saying in coaching that if somebody spoke to you like you spoke to yourself in your head then you’d probably end up smacking them and you’d – at the very least – tell them to STFU.

Because that judgemental voice or ‘inner critic’ has become part of our daily routine we’ve just got used to it and allowed it to continue its business – in many cases, we even end up thinking that the voice is who we are.

The TRUTH is that you picked up that voice somewhere in the outside world and it’s caused you to be disconnected from yourself, the world by extension, and any semblance of REALITY.

In most cases, this voice came from a CRITICAL PARENT or some ‘AUTHORITY’ FIGURE like a disagreeable teacher or something.

In other cases, it might be from old ‘friends’ or peers from the past who were projecting their own ‘stuff’ onto you and because of whatever shame, guilt, and/or trauma you were carrying you decided to take it on as the actual ‘truth’ about you.

The FACT is that if you’re running around all day judging yourself then you don’t understand who you are and you don’t understand REALITY.

The reality is that you are beyond the judgement of other human beings because no other human being can comprehend the truth about where you are, what you did to get there, and where you’re going.

When you find yourself in a hypnotic state of self-judgement it means that you’ve taken UNREAL standards from the outside world as being your REAL VALUES and INTENTIONS (which are always from a place of WHOLENESS when you’re real because reality is WHOLE).

These standards always show up as ‘shoulds’ about ourselves or the world.

Self – “I SHOULD be/do/have [what I’m told, not what I INTEND]

World – “I SHOULD fit into a certain [box/script/pattern/etc]”

The reality is you don’t NEED to do anything except accept where you are and where you want to be .

Move towards WHOLENESS and judgement slips by the wayside.

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The Easiest Way Out of Your Thoughts is Through Nature

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Life Philosophy/Psychology

No thoughts are real.

This is because thoughts are always have two qualities:

1. They pass.

2. They’re fragmented instead of whole.

Number 1 is important to know because whatever is REAL about you lasts forever and can never added to, removed from, destroyed or recreated.

Number 2 is important because whatever is REAL about you is about a CONNECTION to the WHOLE.

Thoughts are only a temporary reflection or distortion of this WHOLE because of the fragmented way that these thoughts arise within you:

1. First you PERCEIVE life in a fragmented way because of your fragmented body (which has to divide and fragment because of its physical limits – you can’t see through the back of your head for example).

2. You INTERPRET what you perceive through your FRAGMENTED conceptual knowledge (because nobody is omniscient) and your EMOTIONAL BLOCKS.

3. These interpretations feed into what you know or don’t ‘know’ about life and this leads you to have QUESTIONS about things – as your brain is just a MACHINE for finding the answer to questions it runs around in conceptual circles trying to find CLOSURE.

4. This HAMSTER WHEEL of trying to close a LOOP is what causes nearly all of the thoughts that run through your head (with the exception of thoughts about things that pop up in your immediate environment).

If you want to stop OVERTHINKING, you need to try and figure out what questions you’re subconsciously trying to answer.

Clue: normally it’s something along the lines of” Why did [x] happen to me?”, “Why couldn’t I [x]”?, “Why did he/she/god/etc. do [whatever]”?

If you’re not aware of this tendency of the BRAIN to drive itself mad, you’ll think that thinking is your NATURAL STATE and that the product of your thoughts is who you are.

That’s BULLSHIT.

99% of the problems in our lives stem from the fact that we OVERVALUE thinking when actually thinking is a BRAIN DISORDER.

Your NATURAL state is to not think but to be AWARE and to take ACTION.

The easiest way to remind yourself of this is to put yourself back in touch with NATURE itself (hiking, climbing, watching a storm, whatever).

When you find your edge out there, nature ANSWERS any question you can have.

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