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You Deal With Your Childhood Wounds by Being an Adult

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Nobody gets out of childhood totally unscathed.

It has to be this way because childhood is about being WHOLE – or at least SPONTANEOUS – and the world we’re brought up in is designed for FRAGMENTS and HESITATION.

Think about how many times you probably heard the word “NO” when you we’re growing up:

“NO, you can’t go play in the road.”

“NO, you can’t stay up all night”.

“NO, you can’t wear that Spiderman outfit to the supermarket.”

Maybe it’s a good thing that the world wears us down with ‘No’?

If we all were just so open minded that our brains fell out then the world would end up being a lunatic asylum for free range clowns… Oh, wait – we got that anyway. Maybe ‘No’ isn’t the best option.

The problem is that ‘NO’ just ends up wounding people and creating ‘broken’ adults (i.e. emotional retards – people whose INNER CHILD isn’t intergated and throws a constant temper tantrum when reminded of its seminal ‘wounds’).

It wounds people because they hear ‘NO’ at three main levels:

Shame: Where they receive a ‘NO’ at the level of their very being and their inherent value (usually because of some BS physical thing or personality quirk).

Guilt: Where they receive a ‘NO’ at the level of their actions or the situations they’ve found themselves in (like being born, for example).

Trauma: Where they receive a heavy’NO’ from some external force in the face of their own power and human capacity.

We all have some of this stuff going on to some extent when we go out into the world and how we deal with it is what most affects the course of our lives and who we become in the face of the world.

If we allow those ‘NO’ echoes to linger and internalise the feelings of shame, guilt, and/or trauma then we end up hiding behind the mask of adulthood whilst a WOUNDED child mopes about behind the scenes feeling lost and alone.

Instead of protecting and helping the child, we end up – in this state – trying to protect the mask instead but all that means is we don’t face the FEELINGS that wounded us and stay in this lost child state.

The solution is to be an ADULT and take RESPONSIBILITY over hiding. Only then can we face what we’ve been hiding from and reclaim our POWER.

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Most People are ‘Free’ in the Same Way a Free Range Chicken is Free

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If the average free range chicken could speak, it would probably tell you that it really was ‘free’:

-It can strut around the farm as much as it likes.

-It can eat the worms (or whatever chickens eat) that it scrats around for in the grass.

-It can move freely from one point to another within the set limits of whatever fencing the farmer has installed to keep it in place.

Maybe that’s all it takes to be a ‘happy’ chicken – the freedom to have your needs met and enough room to breathe and move around so that you can feel like you’re making your own choices.

The problem is that the chicken isn’t free. Not at all.

Yeah, it’s ‘free’ to range around the farm but that farm is really just a breeding ground so that the chicken can live out its life as long as it serves ECONOMIC VALUE to the farmer that owns it.

From the chickens POV (who is probably too busy distracting itself with its quest for worms in the grass or whatever) it’s probably oblivious to the fact that it’s OWNED and that the majority of its available CHOICES have been predetermined by the chicken masters.

It’s not really that different for the majority of human beings that live in the ‘free’ economic system that we’ve created.

Sure, we’re free to make choices about what brand of toothpaste we want to buy or which supermarket we want to fill our trolleys up with each week.

Yeah, we get to decide if we want to drive this type of car or that type of car (or maybe we buy into some ideology about riding bicycles and do that).

All of our choices are locked within the limitations of the FARM that our own economic chicken masters have set for us as cogs in the machinery of a system of labour, consumption, debt, and taxes.

The people in charge of the farm make decisions not on the value of our lives but on the economic value we can provide and the impact our lives have on keeping the system in place.

Any time you identify with external ideas or goods then you’re just buying into the illusion of the farm and thinking you can buy your freedom with false choices.

You can’t. The only true freedom is internal and you can only get that when you see the farm for what it is and stop being a chicken.

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Hatred is Judgement to the Max

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Perhaps the closest we can get to a ‘miracle’ on this planet of ours is seeing hatred get transformed into…something REAL.

Hatred is just JUDGEMENT with the volume turned all the way up:

If means that – at some level – somebody has found themselves in a situation where they’ve been forced to EXAMINE their own image of themselves and instead of following through with whatever learning is asked of them and GROWING REAL they decide to project it out into the world in vehemence and rage.

ALL judgement is UNREAL and all hatred is judgement maxed out.

Whenever you JUDGE somebody else, you have first made some judgement about yourself that makes you believe you’re FRAGMENTED and not WHOLE.

Really, judgement is just the belief that the fragments are ALL WE ARE but that’s impossible because no fragment can ever be ‘all’ of anything.

When you JUDGE, you assume that you have the POWER to deny the TRUTH about people which is that they’re all complicated and confusing but that – once the clouds clear – there is only light and that the same LIGHT is within all of us.

When you JUDGE, you get caught up in the ILLUSIONS OF DUALITY – you ascribe things or people as being some degree of either ‘good’ or ‘bad’ but you CANNOT judge because you’re only a human (I assume) and so your judgements are fed through a double-barrelled reality distortion device of:

1. Limited Perception – because of your limited body.

2. Limited Interpretation – because of your limited understanding which is always informed by your emotional ‘stuff’ and the STORIES you want to believe about yourself, the world, and reality.

This VEILED VEIL is what keeps you from REALITY and the truth about life (which is always beyond judgement because it just ‘is’).

The more attached you become to your unreal PERCEPTIONS and INTERPRETATIONS the more you need to judge to keep the illusion in place (so you can keep avoiding your SHADOW and growing REAL).

HATRED is what happens when somebody becomes a lynchpin for the edifice of your EGO’s illusions and the judgement that binds them.

The ‘miracle’ is that you can wake up whenever you feel like it and you do that not by HATING others but by LOVING yourself.

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