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Your Emotions are Asking You to Either Accept Something You Don’t or to Enjoy Something You Do.

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The final lesson is always ACCEPTANCE.

Everything else you learn and go through is just putting you somewhere on the spectrum between learning that final truth or getting caught up in JUDGEMENT and holding yourself back from life.

Everything we do is either teaching us how to be more OPEN and to go deeper into life or it’s causing us to put up our defenses and to RESIST (so that we can keep the EGO in place and avoid having to face the SHADOW TERRITORY blah blah – see my book Shadow Life).

The EMOTIONAL LANDSCAPE of your life – in general – is a reflection of your CAPACITY and WILLINGNESS to ACCEPT reality.

If you accept, then you feel ‘good’ because you’re open and there are no/less barriers between you and where life wants to take you.

If you resist, then you fell ‘bad’ because you’re closed and you place illusory barriers (ego ‘stuff’) between you and life and it will forever slip between your fingers.

It’s so easy to attribute a lot of mental health problems to physical or chemical causes but – in A LOT of cases – the ‘mental health crisis’ is just a SYMPTOM of being in an UNREAL world that is constantly trying to distract people and make them forget about what it means to be a living, breathing human being.

Depression, anxiety, restlessness, and a lot of other things are just symptoms of the FUNDAMENTAL problem which is that people are scared to be REAL, have been conditioned not to ACCEPT themselves, the world, and reality and so don’t LISTEN to what their emotions are asking them to ACCEPT.

Instead of LEARNING the lesson, they’re just given pills to pop or ‘talking therapies’ that make them go over and RE-IDENTIFY with the same stories and narratives that made them miserable in the first place.

Negative emotions that LINGER mean that you’re AVOIDING a lesson.

In general:

Depression – means that you have LOST TOUCH with your purpose and stopped MOVING so you feel trapped.

Anxiety – means that you’re putting an unreal version of yourself out into the world and getting FRICTION as feedback.

Shame, Guilt, and Trauma – mean you let the world stop you BELIEVING in yourself.

Etc.

If you don’t learn to ACCEPT reality you’ll always be UNREAL.

 


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Most People are ‘Free’ in the Same Way a Free Range Chicken is Free

If the average free range chicken could speak, it would probably tell you that it really was ‘free’:

-It can strut around the farm as much as it likes.

-It can eat the worms (or whatever chickens eat) that it scrats around for in the grass.

-It can move freely from one point to another within the set limits of whatever fencing the farmer has installed to keep it in place.

Maybe that’s all it takes to be a ‘happy’ chicken – the freedom to have your needs met and enough room to breathe and move around so that you can feel like you’re making your own choices.

The problem is that the chicken isn’t free. Not at all.

Yeah, it’s ‘free’ to range around the farm but that farm is really just a breeding ground so that the chicken can live out its life as long as it serves ECONOMIC VALUE to the farmer that owns it.

From the chickens POV (who is probably too busy distracting itself with its quest for worms in the grass or whatever) it’s probably oblivious to the fact that it’s OWNED and that the majority of its available CHOICES have been predetermined by the chicken masters.

It’s not really that different for the majority of human beings that live in the ‘free’ economic system that we’ve created.

Sure, we’re free to make choices about what brand of toothpaste we want to buy or which supermarket we want to fill our trolleys up with each week.

Yeah, we get to decide if we want to drive this type of car or that type of car (or maybe we buy into some ideology about riding bicycles and do that).

All of our choices are locked within the limitations of the FARM that our own economic chicken masters have set for us as cogs in the machinery of a system of labour, consumption, debt, and taxes.

The people in charge of the farm make decisions not on the value of our lives but on the economic value we can provide and the impact our lives have on keeping the system in place.

Any time you identify with external ideas or goods then you’re just buying into the illusion of the farm and thinking you can buy your freedom with false choices.

You can’t. The only true freedom is internal and you can only get that when you see the farm for what it is and stop being a chicken.

 


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