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Your World is Just Your Old Thoughts and Beliefs Made Manifest Whilst You Try and Think of Something Better.

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Your world today is a REFLECTION of the ‘Old’ You.

When we’re being UNREAL, we get so caught up in thinking that the world we PERCEIVE ourselves to live in is the concrete TRUTH about life but it isn’t for a number of reasons:

-First of all – as we say on here a billion times a week – the WORLD IS NOT REALITY.

It’s just a set of ideas and concepts and the more closely these ideas and concepts ‘point’ to reality (though none can ever TOUCH it), the more truth you let into your world and the more REAL your life will feel.

-Secondly, then, your world today is just a REFLECTION of how much you managed to accept yourself or not yesterday.

If you did manage to accept yourself then the ideas and concepts you use to make sense of life will reflect that and by extension your world will reflect that too.

If, on the other hand, your thoughts and beliefs have become a PRISON where you’re constantly JUDGING yourself or others then you’ll be locked inside yourself and the world will become OPPRESSIVE and RESTRICTIVE as an extension of that.

As we said the other day, there is a LAG in time between the day that you decide to UPGRADE your software (i.e. your EGO) and the day that reality will shift around you or catch up with the new or REAL way of thinking and believing once you’ve realised that you’re holding yourself back from life.

In short, when it comes to ‘The World’ what you RECEIVE is what you allow yourself to PERCEIVE.

“Allow yourself” is the key phrase because your perceptions of yourself, the world, and reality are ultimately up to you and the CHOICES you make when it comes to doing the inner work and accepting yourself or not.

The world you woke up in today is a reflection of how much you believed in YOURSELF yesterday.

If you’re ‘stuck’ in a situation that feels UNREAL then it’s because you have HYPNOTISED yourself with your conditioning and put yourself in a mind prison that extends as far as you can see in waking life.

Penetrate the DREAM and become LUCID by realising that you can CHANGE just about whatever you want.

First you have to see yourself and BELIEVE.

Then you have to have TRUST whilst reality catches up around you and the lag fades out.

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‘Happiness’ isn’t Just About Events…It’s a Process.

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Anybody can be REAL whenever they want – all they have to do is remember.

If you forget that you’re real – because you allow the world to condition you in to staying ASLEEP or because you hypnotise yourself with your own BS – then you take yourself out of the NATURAL process of moving and growing real and you just have unreal TENSION and friction in your life.

When your life is defined by UNREAL tension and friction then you’re not living your REAL life but coping with an unreal life that is the end product of your UNREAL CHOICES.

When everything is unreal in this way, you’re not really living in a way that can be defined as embodying ‘happiness’ because the life you’re living isn’t really yours – it’s just something that you COPE with whilst you passively wait for something better to come along (instead of cultivating AWARENESS, ACCEPTING what you need to, and taking ACTION to make it real again – check out my coaching packages).

When you make these unreal choices it’s always because of your ILLUSIONS about yourself, the world, and reality.

When you buy into these ILLUSIONS, you will do anything to protect and uphold them so that you can avoid the inevitable crash back down to reality (where you’ll find the solid ground and release you actually want).

When you live to protect all of this, your life becomes an incredibly TENSE state where you WASTE all your ENERGY upholding the illusions that imprison you and live for the little RELEASES of tension that make you think you’re ‘free:

-Maybe you live for the weekend so you can release the tension of that job you hate.

-Maybe you live for holidays so you can escape the life you’re fed up of and actually feel like ‘you’.

-Maybe you live for pay day because it’s the only dopamine BUZZ you feel anymore.

Whatever it is, living for these kind of EVENTS takes you away from the truth which is that ‘happiness’ is a PROCESS and you can be in or out of it any time you CHOOSE.

If you CHOOSE the process, then it means you’re not just releasing tension through sporadic events but you build CREATIVE tension between where you are now, where you wanna go, and who you need to BECOME.

Open up and GROW REAL.

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Your World Today is a Reflection of How the ‘Old’ You Used to Think.

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What you put into your life is what you get out of it.

You put something REAL in, guess what comes out?

Yeah, something real.

You put something UNREAL in?

You can probably figure it out.

The ‘problem’ (though it’s really more just a ‘reality’) is that the universe operates according to a law of CAUSE and EFFECT and it takes TIME for these effects to accumulate and give you the results that you want.

What this means is that you could spend your whole life being UNREAL and then decide to WAKE UP one day but it wouldn’t change anything unless you were real CONSISTENTLY over time.

Everything in your life is the accumulation of some PROCESS.

If the process you were involved in for the DESIGN of your life came from a place where you were being unreal with yourself (not your ‘fault’ – probably because of your conditioning and/or unresolved shame/guilt/trauma) then the world you live in today will be UNREAL too.

This is because – due to everything being a PROCESS – there’s actually a LAG.

What this means in practical terms is that your life and WORLD today is just the accumulation of all the choices that the ‘Old’ version of you made yesterday or a few months ago or even years back.

I see this all the time with my coaching clients:

For whatever reason, they were conditioned NOT to be real with themselves (i.e. live according to their REAL values and intentions) and so today the world they’re living in doesn’t ‘fit’ who they truly are deep down.

The solution in this case is to start UPDATING THE SOFTWARE.

Instead of having an unreal personality that was built as an unreal response to something unreal, I have to help people UNLEARN all of that ‘stuff’ and start acting and making CHOICES in a way that is more AUTHENTIC.

Often, this means letting go of the BELIEFS and IDEAS that make them feel like they’re ‘unworthy’ or whatever else they have going on.

When you DIG DEEPER and remove those kinds of beliefs you can start the PROCESS of upgrading the software so that there’s less CONFLICT.

When you do that, things start MOVING again almost immediately, momentum is built, blocks are removed and you just know that TOMORROW is gonna be even better.

 

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Your Emotional ‘Stuff’ Clouds Your Assumptions, Thoughts, and Beliefs and Blinds You to Possibility.

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Life never goes anywhere. Reality never changes.

What does change is our INTERPRETATIONS and PERCEPTIONS and those are affected by our relationship with ourselves first and foremost.

If there’s too much DARKNESS within us – especially darkness that we try to hide from ourselves – then the world becomes claustrophic and restricted.

If we can open up to the LIGHT within us – especially the light that’s SCREAMING to be released – then the world becomes more spacious and we can BREATHE.

The problem for a lot of people is that they’re running around telling themselves that they’re ‘happy’ when they’re not.

They’re telling themselves that this is the life they want to be living, but they know deep down that it isn’t and that whispering such things to themselves over and over again is just a COPE.

Often, this is simply because they have never really ASKED THEMSELVES what it is they want to be spending their time doing – life is short but it’s also a bitch (or so they’ve been told) and then you die.

They might as well just TOLERATE what they’ve been given instead of going out there and TAKING what’s waiting for them.

Other times, it’s not the world that’s holding us back as much as it is OURSELVES (though even when the world holds us back it’s usually because we LET it).

The reason we hold ourselves back is ALWAYS because our assumptions, thoughts, and beliefs have become UNREAL.

On a deeper level, these unreal assumptions, thoughts, and beliefs always stem from our UNRESOLVED emotional ‘stuff’.

It goes like this:

Emotions -> Assumptions about self/world/reality -> Thoughts -> Beliefs

Normally, the things that most affect us are the Unholy Trinity of shame, guilt, and/or trauma but these may also manifest as other emotions like anger, sadness, frustration, or self-loathing.

Whatever it is that you’re FEELING changes the amount of LIGHT that you allow yourself to shine on yourself and the world in reality.

If you become too CLOUDED, then you only end up seeing the problems in your life and being BLIND to all of the possibilities.

Your task is to reverse engineer your beliefs so that you can DIG OUT the assumptions you carry that are SCREWING you.

 

 

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Self-Judgement is Always Learned. It’s Not Your Natural State.

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Judging yourself (or anybody) isn’t your natural state.

It might feel ‘natural’ if you’ve just taken it onboard as part of your personality but that’s just because you’ve got used to that voice in your head following you around and analysing your every move.

There’s an old saying in coaching that if somebody spoke to you like you spoke to yourself in your head then you’d probably end up smacking them and you’d – at the very least – tell them to STFU.

Because that judgemental voice or ‘inner critic’ has become part of our daily routine we’ve just got used to it and allowed it to continue its business – in many cases, we even end up thinking that the voice is who we are.

The TRUTH is that you picked up that voice somewhere in the outside world and it’s caused you to be disconnected from yourself, the world by extension, and any semblance of REALITY.

In most cases, this voice came from a CRITICAL PARENT or some ‘AUTHORITY’ FIGURE like a disagreeable teacher or something.

In other cases, it might be from old ‘friends’ or peers from the past who were projecting their own ‘stuff’ onto you and because of whatever shame, guilt, and/or trauma you were carrying you decided to take it on as the actual ‘truth’ about you.

The FACT is that if you’re running around all day judging yourself then you don’t understand who you are and you don’t understand REALITY.

The reality is that you are beyond the judgement of other human beings because no other human being can comprehend the truth about where you are, what you did to get there, and where you’re going.

When you find yourself in a hypnotic state of self-judgement it means that you’ve taken UNREAL standards from the outside world as being your REAL VALUES and INTENTIONS (which are always from a place of WHOLENESS when you’re real because reality is WHOLE).

These standards always show up as ‘shoulds’ about ourselves or the world.

Self – “I SHOULD be/do/have [what I’m told, not what I INTEND]

World – “I SHOULD fit into a certain [box/script/pattern/etc]”

The reality is you don’t NEED to do anything except accept where you are and where you want to be .

Move towards WHOLENESS and judgement slips by the wayside.

 

 

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Your World is Just a Movie Set You Built Because of the Script You Follow

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Most of us are movie stars without even realising it.

That doesn’t mean we’re gonna end up saving the world or running around in front of exploding buildings (though never say never), but it does mean that we’re following a SCRIPT that was written by somebody else.

Unfortunately, unlike that Hollywood star or starlet our scripts are followed unknowingly – on autopilot – and the director isn’t sat shouting directions at us on a megaphone but is hidden deep down in the SHADOWS of our unconscious.

This script was usually INSTILLED within us sometime in childhood – usually because of our parents or other ‘authority’ figures and the way that they affected our levels of TRUST in them, ourselves, and the world.

If these levels of trust become SKEWED or DISTORTED – usually because we end up engaging with some kind of ASSHOLES that are too busy projecting their own unresolved ‘pain’ out into the world – then it distorts our view of ourselves and gives us a set of false ASSUMPTIONS about things to live out the course of our lives according to (This is ‘The Script’).

If the assholes that screwed up your childhood (forgive them anyway – they didn’t know what they were doing) caused you to doubt yourself, the world, and reality then the script you’ll be following from beneath the shadows will go something like this:

“The world is a dangerous place that doesn’t have my best interests at heart”.

“Life is unfair and nobody can be trusted”.

“I’m not good enough to be loved/appreciated/whatever”.

Etc.

These CORE ASSUMPTIONS will cause you to run on autopilot so that you can keep hiding from the shame, guilt, and/or trauma that binds you to them.

Living according to these assumptions (without necessarily knowing) will cause you to have a set of UNREAL BELIEFS that are grounded in them.

It goes a bit like this:

Unresolved Emotional ‘Stuff’ -> Core Assumptions about self/world/reality -> Beliefs ->’World’

In other words, THE WORLD IS NOT REALITY but a layer that you project over reality based on the SCRIPT you’re following.

If you can change the CORE ASSUMPTIONS that fuel the script you’re following you can change the shape of your world.

Direct your own movie.

 

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If You Judge Another, You Judge Yourself

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Life is just a goddam trip.

You come screaming out of the womb, get slapped (in most cases) to see if you can cry (they want you to fit in), and then you’re pumped through an economic system of education to be conditioned as one of the herd.

If you’re lucky, you can find a station in life that you can tolerate with people that don’t annoy you TOO much; if you’re not, you spend your days slaving away at some meaningless task you don’t really care about before you die.

Yeah, it’s a trip.

To top it all off, nobody really KNOWS how the hell we ended up here or what the point of it all is.

You can go MAD just trying to survive and that’s exactly what happens to most people – their wits start to ERODE and the pressure drives them madder with each passing year.

The thing that we sometimes need to remind ourselves of is that “WE’RE ALL IN THIS ‘LIFE’ THING TOGETHER.”

-That family member you’ve got that’s always talking about nutty theories or got some scheme on the go?

Yeah, they’re dealing with the same existential crap as the rest of us.

-Those upstairs neighbours that (try to) juggle bricks and stomp around in stilts at 3am in the morning?

Yeah, that’s just how they’re finding some MEANING amidst all the absurdity.

-That lunatic you know who’s always threatening to beat everybody up (but never does)?

Yeah, that’s just a way of COPING with whatever the hell they’ve been through that led them here.

The POINT is that EVERYBODY is going through or has been through something because that’s what makes us HUMAN.

If you’re scared of facing your own ‘stuff’ then your tendency might be to JUDGE the other people that are going through ‘it’ with you but if you do that you only end up JUDGING YOURSELF.

If you BELIEVE it’s possible to JUDGE somebody else then it means you BELIEVE it’s possible for you to be judged too because you believe in the VALIDITY of judgement.

No human can judge anything accurately because all judgement is about ‘good’ and ‘bad’ but nothing is that simple.

When you judge you enter the realm of DUALITY and take yourself away from the truth about yourself and others: WHOLENESS.

All judgement is unreal and you become unreal when you judge.

Believe you can’t be judged (because you can’t be) but accept that means that nobody else can be either – whatever one of us is in truth, we all are.

 

 

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