You Deal With Your Childhood Wounds by Being an Adult

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Nobody gets out of childhood totally unscathed.

It has to be this way because childhood is about being WHOLE – or at least SPONTANEOUS – and the world we’re brought up in is designed for FRAGMENTS and HESITATION.

Think about how many times you probably heard the word “NO” when you we’re growing up:

“NO, you can’t go play in the road.”

“NO, you can’t stay up all night”.

“NO, you can’t wear that Spiderman outfit to the supermarket.”

Maybe it’s a good thing that the world wears us down with ‘No’?

If we all were just so open minded that our brains fell out then the world would end up being a lunatic asylum for free range clowns… Oh, wait – we got that anyway. Maybe ‘No’ isn’t the best option.

The problem is that ‘NO’ just ends up wounding people and creating ‘broken’ adults (i.e. emotional retards – people whose INNER CHILD isn’t intergated and throws a constant temper tantrum when reminded of its seminal ‘wounds’).

It wounds people because they hear ‘NO’ at three main levels:

Shame: Where they receive a ‘NO’ at the level of their very being and their inherent value (usually because of some BS physical thing or personality quirk).

Guilt: Where they receive a ‘NO’ at the level of their actions or the situations they’ve found themselves in (like being born, for example).

Trauma: Where they receive a heavy’NO’ from some external force in the face of their own power and human capacity.

We all have some of this stuff going on to some extent when we go out into the world and how we deal with it is what most affects the course of our lives and who we become in the face of the world.

If we allow those ‘NO’ echoes to linger and internalise the feelings of shame, guilt, and/or trauma then we end up hiding behind the mask of adulthood whilst a WOUNDED child mopes about behind the scenes feeling lost and alone.

Instead of protecting and helping the child, we end up – in this state – trying to protect the mask instead but all that means is we don’t face the FEELINGS that wounded us and stay in this lost child state.

The solution is to be an ADULT and take RESPONSIBILITY over hiding. Only then can we face what we’ve been hiding from and reclaim our POWER.

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The Universe is Neutral; Thought is Empty; Life is Full.

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In the human form we’ve found ourselves we’re just…human.

Some people spend their lives trying to convince themselves that they’re ‘LESS THAN’ human and so they role over and give up – forgetting that they have a human SPIRIT and can stand up to fight again.

Others act like they’re ‘MORE THAN’ human, thinking that they’re really above and beyond all of the amazing things that make human being such a rewarding experience – they don’t have time to feel ‘bad’ sometimes or to grow through weakness. They’re heroes who are immune to life (and so they wonder why they never really TASTE it).

When these ‘more’ or ‘less’ than humans have moments of being shaken or feeling like they’re not where they want to be, they often BEG the UNIVERSE for guidance.

The problem with this is that the ‘universe’ doesn’t really give a crap about you – it CAN’T because it’s totally NEUTRAL. It doesn’t think or feel or even really do anything – it just IS and you either work with its flow or you don’t.

That doesn’t mean the universe can’t be MOULDED into something ‘Good’ or ‘Bad’ with the CHOICES that we make but it does mean that when you beg it for help you’re begging nothing for nothing and just wasting your own time.

Would you ask that random rock in the hills to guide your life? Would you ask that tree in the park to solve you sciatica? Would you ask the empty space you walk through to help you pay your electric bill?

Of course not. But that’s all the ‘universe’ is: neutral objects and empty spaces.

Both the ‘More’ and ‘Less’ than humans have been TRICKED by the same empty thing: thought.

Their thoughts have tricked them into believing that they’re something other than what they ARE and all of the amazing things that come with it: a human being.

When you stop your thoughts getting in the way and blocking your view you allow yourself to be FILLED with LIFE.

When this happens, you’re no longer disconnected from everything that surrounds you and you are able to find power within yourself to stop your universe being neutral because you do two things:

1. Uncover the TRUTH

2. Put it into ACTION

You can’t do that if you treat the neutral as meaningful or the empty as FULL.

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The Truth Will Make You Humble, Not Arrogant

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It is what it is and you either accept it or you don’t.

The truth is WHOLE and if it’s whole then by definition there can only be ONE.

We like to forget this – or even resist the idea completely – because it allows us to feel good about ourselves and stay in our comfort zones.

We like to think that our own INTERPRETATIONS of the fragmented reality we perceive around us is the end of the line but it’s not and never will be.

Our interpretations are interpretations and the TRUTH is the TRUTH.

You can see how this works when two people get caught up in a debate and there are THREE sides to the story:

1-The interpretation of person number one (fragments)

2-The interpretation of person number two (fragments)

3-The actual TRUTH (the WHOLE).

People like to keep the stories that they want to believe about themselves in place. That’s it.

All this really means though is that they have CREATED a story that appears to have an impenetrable INTERPRETATION of the truth built into it that allows them to feel ‘RIGHT’ about things.

When you want to be ‘right’ all the time it just means that you’re over-invested in the STORY you already picked up from the PAST and have no interest in writing a new one.

In this mode, you are lost in your ego and denying your REALNESS in truth every step of the way – you have made an IDOL of the truth itself and think that it is something that exists to serve your EGO and its arrogance.

This couldn’t be further from the truth though as the ego is the direct opposite of reality in truth – it’s a cocktail of LIES and its arrogance is what keeps you from the RELEASE of surrender to the flow of LIFE that fills the soul of your veins without you even knowing.

Using the ‘truth’ to be right all the time can only lead to arrogance and arrogance is the opposite of your REALNESS because when you’re real you don’t need to be ‘more than’ human.

The best relationship with the truth is the one that humbles you by showing you that you’re WRONG.

Only when you’re wrong can you let the light of insight in and LEARN who you really are and what you’re capable of.

That’s better than anything arrogance can ever believe.

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Acceptance is the Bridge to Your True Timeline

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You’re either in your time or you’re out-of-sync and the only difference between the two is ACCEPTANCE or RESISTANCE.

Really, when it comes to being real and living the life that you INTEND, the final lesson and resting place of your soul in the zone is always ACCEPTANCE:

Acceptance of YOURSELF and the things you stand for – your true values, your true intentions, and your true sense of morality (aligned with wholeness instead of the fragments of the world).

Acceptance of the WORLD and its limitations – like how the world is just an idea and your ideas about yourself and the OPENNESS of your heart affect what you let into the world around you.

Acceptance of REALITY and the INEVITABLE LAWS that fuel our relationship with it – such as the truth that everything changes in our human experience but everything is ONE and beyond change in the LIGHT of truth.

Your ability to ACCEPT life at these three levels (self, world, and reality) is affected by your ability to LEAN INTO and EMBRACE the TRUTH.

For most of us, the main reason we’re incapable of doing this is because we have become DISTORTED in TIME and need to make a quantum leap back onto the timeline we BELONG on (because our INTENTIONS are aligned with it).

When you don’t ACCEPT yourself, the world, and reality it means that you’ve found yourself on a DEAD TIMELINE where something is LOST, MISSING, or NEVER EXISTED but you make choices about who you are, what the world is, and what’s REAL that go against the waves of time that are washing over you.

This is normally because we’ve accumlated and attached to IDEAS that protect us from what we think we’ve been through but which become OUTDATED as time keeps swirling around us and we enter a different reality.

What this basically means is that the SOFTWARE our mind operates on is out of date with the HARDWARE we’re now operating on. When this happens it causes a SYSTEM CONFLICT or FAILURE that brings friction, frustration, and misery.

Your job is to upgrade the software by ACCEPTING REALITY and unifying mind and body so that you can WALK THE BRIDGE of trust and belief in yourself so that you can find solid ground back on your own TRUE TIMELINE and build a future that’s REAL.

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Most People are ‘Free’ in the Same Way a Free Range Chicken is Free

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If the average free range chicken could speak, it would probably tell you that it really was ‘free’:

-It can strut around the farm as much as it likes.

-It can eat the worms (or whatever chickens eat) that it scrats around for in the grass.

-It can move freely from one point to another within the set limits of whatever fencing the farmer has installed to keep it in place.

Maybe that’s all it takes to be a ‘happy’ chicken – the freedom to have your needs met and enough room to breathe and move around so that you can feel like you’re making your own choices.

The problem is that the chicken isn’t free. Not at all.

Yeah, it’s ‘free’ to range around the farm but that farm is really just a breeding ground so that the chicken can live out its life as long as it serves ECONOMIC VALUE to the farmer that owns it.

From the chickens POV (who is probably too busy distracting itself with its quest for worms in the grass or whatever) it’s probably oblivious to the fact that it’s OWNED and that the majority of its available CHOICES have been predetermined by the chicken masters.

It’s not really that different for the majority of human beings that live in the ‘free’ economic system that we’ve created.

Sure, we’re free to make choices about what brand of toothpaste we want to buy or which supermarket we want to fill our trolleys up with each week.

Yeah, we get to decide if we want to drive this type of car or that type of car (or maybe we buy into some ideology about riding bicycles and do that).

All of our choices are locked within the limitations of the FARM that our own economic chicken masters have set for us as cogs in the machinery of a system of labour, consumption, debt, and taxes.

The people in charge of the farm make decisions not on the value of our lives but on the economic value we can provide and the impact our lives have on keeping the system in place.

Any time you identify with external ideas or goods then you’re just buying into the illusion of the farm and thinking you can buy your freedom with false choices.

You can’t. The only true freedom is internal and you can only get that when you see the farm for what it is and stop being a chicken.

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Your True Purpose is to Light Up the Dark

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People often get lost and depressed because they feel that life is ‘meaningless’.

When they start getting caught up in such feelings they’re often shit out of luck because the world reflects back to us what we see in it (based on our relationship with ourselves) and so if expect a lack of meaning that’s what we get: a VOID.

More often than not, this void arises because of the void in ourselves that has caused us to send the REALEST parts of who we are down into the SHADOW TERRITORY (because the world deemed them ‘unacceptable’ and we believed it because of shame, guilt, and/or trauma).

With these real parts sent deep into hiding, we end up becoming DETACHED and DISSOCIATED from our real core and so we end up creating an EMPTY FILTER to view the world through (aka ‘the ego’ – at least, that’s what I call it).

The ego is UNREAL and devoid of meaning because it doesn’t exist. If we use it to filter reality through to keep our emotional ‘stuff’ at bay then of course life seems meaningless.

“We don’t see the world as it is but as we are.”

On top of this FILTERING ISSUE, being overly identified and caught up in the EGO FILTER causes us to be PASSIVE and to stop moving or taking action.

This is because when the ego has a hold over us, it blocks our capacity to move forward – because doing so would ask us to face our emotional stuff and shed the skin of the ego like a snake on our soul.

This combination – of filtering everything through ego and not taking action – causes life to appear static and therefore be ‘meaningless’.

To make it ‘MEANINGFUL’ again you have to realise that meaning isn’t a default but a BYPRODUCT and that it comes from PURPOSE.

Those who find life the most meaningful are the ones engaged in some kind of purpose and take daily actions to realise it and make it happen.

All a purpose really is is the act of MAKING YOUR VALUES VALUABLE TO OTHERS.

When you know your core values and find ways to share them with others you take something real in yourself and use it to help others be more real too.

This is how you LIGHT UP THE DARK and take yourself and others out of the VOID and into the truth.

Find something REAL and light your FLAME.

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Hatred is Judgement to the Max

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Perhaps the closest we can get to a ‘miracle’ on this planet of ours is seeing hatred get transformed into…something REAL.

Hatred is just JUDGEMENT with the volume turned all the way up:

If means that – at some level – somebody has found themselves in a situation where they’ve been forced to EXAMINE their own image of themselves and instead of following through with whatever learning is asked of them and GROWING REAL they decide to project it out into the world in vehemence and rage.

ALL judgement is UNREAL and all hatred is judgement maxed out.

Whenever you JUDGE somebody else, you have first made some judgement about yourself that makes you believe you’re FRAGMENTED and not WHOLE.

Really, judgement is just the belief that the fragments are ALL WE ARE but that’s impossible because no fragment can ever be ‘all’ of anything.

When you JUDGE, you assume that you have the POWER to deny the TRUTH about people which is that they’re all complicated and confusing but that – once the clouds clear – there is only light and that the same LIGHT is within all of us.

When you JUDGE, you get caught up in the ILLUSIONS OF DUALITY – you ascribe things or people as being some degree of either ‘good’ or ‘bad’ but you CANNOT judge because you’re only a human (I assume) and so your judgements are fed through a double-barrelled reality distortion device of:

1. Limited Perception – because of your limited body.

2. Limited Interpretation – because of your limited understanding which is always informed by your emotional ‘stuff’ and the STORIES you want to believe about yourself, the world, and reality.

This VEILED VEIL is what keeps you from REALITY and the truth about life (which is always beyond judgement because it just ‘is’).

The more attached you become to your unreal PERCEPTIONS and INTERPRETATIONS the more you need to judge to keep the illusion in place (so you can keep avoiding your SHADOW and growing REAL).

HATRED is what happens when somebody becomes a lynchpin for the edifice of your EGO’s illusions and the judgement that binds them.

The ‘miracle’ is that you can wake up whenever you feel like it and you do that not by HATING others but by LOVING yourself.

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Screw the Labels. Bring the Energy.

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The ego is insecure because it knows it’s not REAL.

Because it’s not REAL, it will try and trick you into finding ideas or concepts that give it the ILLUSION and weight of realness..

One way that it does this is through LABELS and self-serving descriptions that allow it to feel more complex and IMPORTANT than it really is.

These labels can be as far-fetched as you like – basically, anything that helps you to keep hiding from the emotional ‘stuff’ that led you to CREATE your ego in the first place so you can avoid the RIDE BACK HOME to reality (even though that’s what you really want).

Normally, the labels we CHOOSE are a sign of where we’ve been but also how far we still need to go so we can become WHOLE again:

-People who choose to label themselves according to their sexuality are often CONTROLLED by their sexuality.

-People who choose to label themselves according to their gender are often scared of their own masculine/feminine energies or feel like they’ve been inadequate in the past.

-People who choose to label themselves as their professions alone need the sense of control that comes with that label and how it’s seen in the world.

-People who choose to label themselves as ‘rich’/’poor’/’whatever’ have chosen to identify with those labels because of the GAMES they allow them to play.

In short, labelling things (especially ourselves) is just a short-term attempt to wrestle CONTROL over ourselves and the world in alignment with our emotional ‘stuff’ and the depths we’re willing to go to within ourselves.

The problem with this approach is that whatever it is that YOU are is WHOLE and so can never be encapsulated in FRAGMENTED WORDS or ideas.

In fact, an obsession with words and labels will only serve to keep you from what you are beyond all the ideas and interpretations that can be made about life.

When you CLING to words and identity you cling to UNREALITY and stop yourself FLOWING and feeling fully ALIVE.

Instead of identifying with labels BECOME the energy behind them:

You’re not a ‘lover’ you ARE love.

You’re not ‘rich’ you ARE abundance.

You’re not a ‘truth teller’ you ARE the truth.

Find the energy and ride it with I AM.

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